Paging Mr. Plishkin, Mr. Plishkin, pick up the white courtesy phone...
@Smokin JoeTrue confession time.I now have several distant cousins living here who managed to escape from NYC,and they are never returning. One or more of their grandparents moved there during or after WW-2 for the jobs or opportunities,and the first one decided to come visit distant relatives on his high school graduation trip. He has never been back home since arriving here. He called his parents and told them to mail his tools and clothing to him because he wasn't coming back. Since then,several of his cousins have followed in his footprints,and none of them will go back. Not even for a relatives funeral on a short trip.
I once asked the original cousin what about visiting his mother and father,and he told me "They know where I live,and if they want to see me they are welcome to come visit."
Since he has been here over 30 years now without ever once going back,it seems he is serious about this.