Paul lived at a time when patriarchy was the order of the day, as it's been the order of the day for most of human history. Now, things are a little different.
I've always found it best to come to an agreement, to acceed to my wife in her area of expertise, and she acceeds to mine. We've been together 24 years and it's worked out well.
I really don't get the need for evangelicals to wave this scripture around as if it were definitive. Paul wasn't even married.