A good friend decided to cut his son off due to a series of poor decisions the young man refused to learn from. Long story short, they are reunited and the young man is in Army intelligence. He is in jump school now because he wants to do spec ops. It took the young man about nine months of suffering to realize that dad was right about his life and that he was cut off out of love. My in-laws refuse to cut off brother-in-law and he now continues to make poor decisions. He is 42 and has still never purchased a car. My in-laws have given him every car he's ever had. They supplement his income even though, on paper, he makes enough to live responsibly. They have been doing this for 20 years now.
The reason we are in this mess is because we attempted to "broaden horizons" instead of treating the mentally ill as what they are. It's cruel, actually, to tell homosexuals that their lifestyles are acceptable.
@goodwithagun Interesting post, and I agree. It's killing them to tell them they can go on risking AIDS as long as they use a condom, but unpleasant truth is worse than death to some these days.
We have a similar situation going on with my husband's brother's kid. The boy started messing up from the time he vandalized his cousin's Christmas presents as a child, but he never saw a single consequence. My in-laws, his grandparents, indulged him and bought him everything he wanted in an effort to make him happy. When he got his license, they bought him a car. He trashed it so they bought him another. He's 22 now, has never held a job, and has a police record as long as a man's arm, including an armed hostage situation. My in-laws had their lawyers bail him out of every arrest. And for all of that, he hates his grandparents with a burning passion, instead of being grateful for the time and money they wasted on his useless behind.
