
Happened to me. Had a GF in Chicago with a problem.
Every time I came to be with her it was with a bottle of Pinot Grigio, or else I had to turn around and go get it.
If I had come with candy and flowers, she would have hit me over the head with them. This is true life.
Candy and flowers are just fluff. But wine, was something to settle her down and keep her going.
Candy and flowers are for courting. This woman had no interest in being 'courted' anyone.
She knew why I was there. I knew why I was there. No need for pretending with half measures from 1950.