My step-son passed today

[AllThatJazzZ]

He had gone for a routine procedure that dialysis patients require on a regular basis -- replacing the old shunt for a new one. He's been doing this for decades. But today a blood clot formed, broke loose and traveled to his heart. Gone in an instant. 58 years old. Devastating news.

I have no family, so I needed to unload somewhere. This seemed like as good a place as any. For those people of faith, please pray for his family. Daughter (+ hubby), 2 sons and a brand new granddaughter. They lost their mother to breast cancer about 4 years ago. (Unfortunately, the daughter inherited that dreaded gene.) Now their dad is gone. Very tough for young people just beginning their adult lives without either parent. So many Thanksgivings, Christmases, Easters, birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, etc. they expected to celebrate.

 

I know he's been reunited with his wife and dad and is celebrating in the presence of Jesus. But life really hurts for those still here. At least we know we'll see him again -- NEVER AGAIN ON DIALYSIS!

[sneakypete]

BTW,LOVE your icon.

I would like to add that people need to adopt old cats,too.

Everybody that wants a pet seems to want a kitten or a puppy,but old cats and dogs need a home,too.

Truth to tell,they make better house pets for older people than puppies or kittens because they don't have to be house broken,and you don't have to worry about them tearing up the carpets or the furniture.

Plus they are grateful to have a new home,and I have never seen an older pet that didn't become very affectionate once they realized they had a new home and were safe again.
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BTW,I apologize to the thread mod for this post. I know it is off-topic,but this is a very important subject to me.

[Smokin Joe]

He had gone for a routine procedure that dialysis patients require on a regular basis -- replacing the old shunt for a new one. He's been doing this for decades. But today a blood clot formed, broke loose and traveled to his heart. Gone in an instant. 58 years old. Devastating news.

I have no family, so I needed to unload somewhere. This seemed like as good a place as any. For those people of faith, please pray for his family. Daughter (+ hubby), 2 sons and a brand new granddaughter. They lost their mother to breast cancer about 4 years ago. (Unfortunately, the daughter inherited that dreaded gene.) Now their dad is gone. Very tough for young people just beginning their adult lives without either parent. So many Thanksgivings, Christmases, Easters, birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, etc. they expected to celebrate.

 

I know he's been reunited with his wife and dad and is celebrating in the presence of Jesus. But life really hurts for those still here. At least we know we'll see him again -- NEVER AGAIN ON DIALYSIS!

I am sorry for your loss. Of course, I'll offer my prayers for you all.

[Hoodat]

@AllThatJazzZ

You are in my prayers that you find comfort and refuge in the Lord.  I am reminded of Job who petitioned to G-d that He had some explaining to do.  Yet when G-d showed up, Job finally saw the big picture.

A parent should never have to bury a son or daughter.  I pray that G-d reveal Himself to you and relieve your sorrow.

[Sighlass]

Ahh Jazz, so very sorry for the loss of family. Prayer of course. Been battling blood clots for 15 years now and the battle is real, but it keeps me close in step with Jesus. I think if I didn't have problems I would be a different person, so sometime I stop and think and pray and thank the Lord for my problems. In keeps me more in step with Him.

[mountaineer]

So sorry to hear of your sad news, @AllThatJazzZ  May God comfort and strengthen his entire family.

[Polly Ticks]

So very sorry for your loss, @AllThatJazzZ
Praying for comfort for you and your step-son's family.

[skeeter]

Oh man. Sincerest condolences, @AllThatJazzZ.

[deb]

So sorry for your loss. Praying for you and all those left behind. May God’s peace be yours as you go through these difficult days.

[PeteS in CA]

    

[Bigun]

So sorry for your loss. Praying for you and all those left behind. May God’s peace be yours as you go through these difficult days.

Ditto!

[Cyber Liberty]

How difficult this must be...I can't even imagine!   

[GrouchoTex]

@AllThatJazzZ
I am so sorry to hear this.
I pray that god comforts and heals you and your family.

[DCPatriot]

@AllThatJazzZ

So very sorry to read about this, by friend. 

[AllThatJazzZ]

I appreciate the well wishes and prayers, y'all. I'm still in that shock phase, trying to figure out which end is up. We've all been through it. It's part of the human experience -- one of the reeeaalllly hard parts.

@sneakypete I don't want your post removed. Bringing dogs into the mix is always good for what ails us. At least that's true for me. I love my geezer dog.

[sneakypete]

I appreciate the well wishes and prayers, y'all. I'm still in that shock phase, trying to figure out which end is up. We've all been through it. It's part of the human experience -- one of the reeeaalllly hard parts.

@sneakypete I don't want your post removed. Bringing dogs into the mix is always good for what ails us. At least that's true for me. I love my geezer dog.[/b]

@AllThatJazzZ

I offer my most sincere thanks. Good homes for old and abandoned pets is an issue very important to me.

[Lando Lincoln]

I am so deeply sorry to read this. Sincere condolences and prayers.

[GtHawk]

@AllThatJazzZ
You have my deepest sympathies at your loss. You say you have no family yet you had a stepson and he had Daughter (+ hubby), 2 sons and a brand new granddaughter. Did you have no relations with them? Perhaps through tragedy a door may open?

[Gefn]

@AllThatJazzZ

I’m so sorry for your loss. You said you don’t have a family, but you do have a family here.

[AllThatJazzZ]

@AllThatJazzZ
You have my deepest sympathies at your loss. You say you have no family yet you had a stepson and he had Daughter (+ hubby), 2 sons and a brand new granddaughter. Did you have no relations with them? Perhaps through tragedy a door may open?

@GtHawk

Good catch! I realized it sounded contradictory and might require an explanation. Let me clear it up for you and the others.

Of my family of origin, my parents have both passed. My husband passed in '70 at 23. I met a man from Los Angeles a couple of years later and we married. He had 2 kids from his first marriage, and we were fortunate enough to get custody of them. Not because their mother was incapable or on any type of substance. She had a new baby with her 2nd husband, and the "kids" (my step-kids) actually wanted to come live with us. So we had the best of both worlds. We had custody of them, and got to send them to San Diego to their mom's every other weekend. I used to have guilt about looking forward to those weekends until all the finest moms I knew said they wished they had a place they send their kids every other weekend! Anyway, mine are the best step-kids in the world.

I moved back to Texas when we divorced. I didn't get to take the kids with me (for obvious reasons), but it wasn't for lack of wishing I could. I got the dog, though. The 1600 miles, various life events, ex's remarriage and then divorce -- these all played a part in keeping us mostly separate. We talked on the phone at times (remember those?), and stayed nominally in touch. I went out for my step-daughter's wedding in 88.

A few years ago, their daddy (my ex) passed. There was a memorial celebration of life at step-daughters house. She kindly invited me to come stay with them. I hadn't seen them in years. We got to pick up where we left off in some ways. My step-son and I sat in the living room and sang "Jesus Christ Superstar" until we were hoarse -- and without missing a lyric! I got to meet all my step-grandkids for the first time. Then it was time to go.

So once again we have the separation of 1600 miles. And very significantly, their mother is still alive and still in San Diego. So now we text and keep up more than be did before smart phones. I'd love for them to move to Texas, but they're native Los Angelenos (daughter now living in Ventura and son lived in Santa Clarita). I can pretty much guarantee that I won't be leaving Texas again. So it will just continue on this way.

Re my family of origin... no siblings (therefore no nieces or nephews), no kids (therefore no grandkids), no aunts or uncles still alive. I do have cousins scattered around the US. We all grew up in the same small town in Texas. I've come full circle, but they're scattered hither, thither and yon. My immediate family for the last few decades has been of the 4-paws variety.

Aren't you glad you asked?! TMI? I think I just needed to get it written down. Turns out, it was a kinda therapeutic.

It's funny how life throws a curve here and there and your life doesn't even come close to resembling what you thought it would when you first launched out on your own.   

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Again, y'all, I appreciate your condolences and kindness.

[AllThatJazzZ]

@AllThatJazzZ

I’m so sorry for your loss. You said you don’t have a family, but you do have a family here.

Thanks, cousin @Gefn. 

[Victoria33]

@AllThatJazzZ
@mystery-ak

You said, "It's funny how life throws a curve here and there and your life doesn't even come close to resembling what you thought it would when you first launched out on your own."

Life happens on a day to day basis until one realizes life is not the way it was a week ago or a month ago or a year ago. That is how life goes by for all of us.   

[GtHawk]

@GtHawk

Good catch! I realized it sounded contradictory and might require an explanation. Let me clear it up for you and the others.

Of my family of origin, my parents have both passed. My husband passed in '70 at 23. I met a man from Los Angeles a couple of years later and we married. He had 2 kids from his first marriage, and we were fortunate enough to get custody of them. Not because their mother was incapable or on any type of substance. She had a new baby with her 2nd husband, and the "kids" (my step-kids) actually wanted to come live with us. So we had the best of both worlds. We had custody of them, and got to send them to San Diego to their mom's every other weekend. I used to have guilt about looking forward to those weekends until all the finest moms I knew said they wished they had a place they send their kids every other weekend! Anyway, mine are the best step-kids in the world.

I moved back to Texas when we divorced. I didn't get to take the kids with me (for obvious reasons), but it wasn't for lack of wishing I could. I got the dog, though. The 1600 miles, various life events, ex's remarriage and then divorce -- these all played a part in keeping us mostly separate. We talked on the phone at times (remember those?), and stayed nominally in touch. I went out for my step-daughter's wedding in 88.

A few years ago, their daddy (my ex) passed. There was a memorial celebration of life at step-daughters house. She kindly invited me to come stay with them. I hadn't seen them in years. We got to pick up where we left off in some ways. My step-son and I sat in the living room and sang "Jesus Christ Superstar" until we were hoarse -- and without missing a lyric! I got to meet all my step-grandkids for the first time. Then it was time to go.

So once again we have the separation of 1600 miles. And very significantly, their mother is still alive and still in San Diego. So now we text and keep up more than be did before smart phones. I'd love for them to move to Texas, but they're native Los Angelenos (daughter now living in Ventura and son lived in Santa Clarita). I can pretty much guarantee that I won't be leaving Texas again. So it will just continue on this way.

Re my family of origin... no siblings (therefore no nieces or nephews), no kids (therefore no grandkids), no aunts or uncles still alive. I do have cousins scattered around the US. We all grew up in the same small town in Texas. I've come full circle, but they're scattered hither, thither and yon. My immediate family for the last few decades has been of the 4-paws variety.

Aren't you glad you asked?! TMI? I think I just needed to get it written down. Turns out, it was a kinda therapeutic.

It's funny how life throws a curve here and there and your life doesn't even come close to resembling what you thought it would when you first launched out on your own.   

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Again, y'all, I appreciate your condolences and kindness.

@AllThatJazzZ
Not too much information at all. My family was tiny, consisted of my parents two siblings one set of grandparents and one uncle and it shrank by a grandparent and uncle before it started to grow. Now basically it's down to my mother my children and their wives and three grandchildren, not just because most of the rest are on the opposite coast because the ones near and far are separated by a gulf of liberalism, you know the type that get angry and loud when they hear something that doesn't mesh with their truth? TMI? Back at ya. Glad that there are those out there, family, to share your life!

[libertybele]

@AllThatJazzZ

I’m so sorry for your loss. You said you don’t have a family, but you do have a family here.

Ditto.  Prayers up for you @AllThatJazzZ  and yes, you DO have a family here!!! 

[AllThatJazzZ]

@AllThatJazzZ
Not too much information at all. My family was tiny, consisted of my parents two siblings one set of grandparents and one uncle and it shrank by a grandparent and uncle before it started to grow. Now basically it's down to my mother my children and their wives and three grandchildren, not just because most of the rest are on the opposite coast because the ones near and far are separated by a gulf of liberalism, you know the type that get angry and loud when they hear something that doesn't mesh with their truth? TMI? Back at ya. Glad that there are those out there, family, to share your life!

@GtHawk

I have to tell on myself. My face involuntarily scrunched up and I let out an "EWWWWWW" upon reading that part. You're right. That is a gulf. And you know that never the twain shall meet if they're infected with TDS, which is nothing more than CDS (conservative derangement syndrome) on steroids. I wonder how many families leftism has split up.

Maybe there's hope. I used to be a Dem, but I was a sweet one. That was back before politics became a contact sport. Reagan was when this puppy's eyes opened. My IQ shot up after that. Okay, I made that part up, but I did make it a point to dig deeper and learn more about politics and current events. Something similar could happen to some of your kinfolk. But if not, you've still got us.