Do you get along with your neighbors?

[corbe]

Sign Of The Times: 75% Of Adults Aren’t Friends With Any Of Their Neighbors

by John Anderer

Do you know your neighbors? Survey reveals that nearly 1 in 4 people are living somewhere with “no sense of community spirit” in their neighborhood.

LONDON — In decades past, it wasn’t uncommon at all for the average family to know each and every one of their neighbors living close by on the same street. Those dwelling on the same block would regularly gather for holiday parties in the winter, and barbecues during the summer. As the years have gone by, however, people have slowly become more inclined to keep to themselves and shy away from even greeting or speaking to their neighbors.

Now, a new survey of 2,000 British adults shows the staggering extent to which the concept of a neighborhood community has fallen by the wayside. In all, 75% say they consider their neighbors mere acquaintances at best. Sadly, nearly a quarter wouldn’t dream of knocking on one of their doors uninvited because there is “no sense of community spirit” in their neighborhood.

The survey, commissioned by Lottoland, also found that one in 10 modern adults mine as well be living next to an empty house as they only see their neighbors less than once per month. Still, four in 10 say they are at least “friendly” with a few of their neighbors, but still wouldn’t call them actual friends. The average survey respondent reports knowing the names of just five people living on their street.

Shockingly, one in 20 couldn’t name a single other person from his or her block.

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https://www.studyfinds.org/sign-of-the-times-75-of-adults-arent-friends-with-any-of-their-neighbors/

[corbe]

   When I first bought this house 20 years ago, they called the cops on me 3 times for excessive (Stereo) noise, there is actually a City Ordinance with a hefty fine.   All those people have since moved on (to hell, probably).  Other than the young lady (45ish) closest to me we drink and party often, the other 4, we get along but I avoid them if I can.

[libertybele]

Since we've moved in a year ago, we've met one of the neighbors to the left of us,the Walkers' Johnny (kid you not) and Shirley -- they're ok, he's kind of quirky and if I met him on the street and didn't know he was married, I'd say he's likely gay. She's seems nice enough.  They brought over some left over muffin/bread of some sort from their church when we met them; um... who brings leftovers to meet neighbors for the first time?  Just sayin'.  The nice thought was there I suppose.  We have empty lots on either side of us and hopefully they'll stay empty for awhile.  In back of us is a 80' canal -- then 4 side by side empty lot so don't have to worry about neighbors behind us.

[EdinVA]

Living in liberalville, the neighbors stopped talking to me when I put my "I'm a deplorable" sticker on my truck...

[Gefn]

Since I’ve moved I really haven’t met any of my new neighbors. I’m kinda lonely.

[LegalAmerican]

Yes. They all have helped me, when I moved in.  But, I also share my fresh baked goods with them.  The Illegal neighbors, right next door, are a bit harder to deal with. No English language and loud Polka music, late into the night.  I wear ear-plugs.  I gave their kids some treats.  A few weeks later, they came over with a green plant to thank me.  They let me know, If I forget to close my garage door at night.  Sometimes, after I hit close, it jumps, and opens again. I learned to stay a while and see it close.
So far so good. 

[catfish1957]

Yes. They all have helped me, when I moved in.  But, I also share my fresh baked goods with them.  The Illegal neighbors, right next door, are a bit harder to deal with. No English language and loud Polka music, late into the night.  I wear ear-plugs.  I gave their kids some treats.  A few weeks later, they came over with a green plant to thank me.  They let me know, If I forget to close my garage door at night.  Sometimes, after I hit close, it jumps, and opens again. I learned to stay a while and see it close.
So far so good.

Hope we don't read about you in the paper giving kiddos cannabis edibles.

[catfish1957]

Since I’ve moved I really haven’t met any of my new neighbors. I’m kinda lonely.

Offer to take them to your local gun range and blow through about a $100 in ammo.  Great icebreaker.

[corbe]

   If you were my Neighbor @LegalAmerican I would be your Friend because I know all too painfully well the exasperation of being your enemy in here.   

[Wingnut]

So, like the other day I had convo with my weird neighbor. It was a little one sided, but It went something like this: 

"I know you're in there, old man! Listen up, mister! That piece of scum barking rat of yours has just taken his last dump on my lawn! I find one more- just one- I'm gonna catch him and staple his ass shut!"

[Cyber Liberty]

So, like the other day I had convo with my weird neighbor. It was a little one sided, but It went something like this: 

"I know you're in there, old man! Listen up, mister! That piece of scum barking rat of yours has just taken his last dump on my lawn! I find one more- just one- I'm gonna catch him and staple his ass shut!"

So...did you manage to keep your dog quiet after that?   

[Wingnut]

So...did you manage to keep your dog quiet after that?   

Well, I was doin' some thinkin' and you know, being that their last house burned down and all, it's like maybe, somebody left the gate open.......

[LegalAmerican]

So...did you manage to keep your dog quiet after that?   

Amazing how many NT have no manners.  Loud stereo, pooping dog....and they 'dare' to get mad at the person upset, by those BAD MANNERS.  That is how I see it.

[corbe]

   NT'ers still have rights, ya know @LegalAmerican ~ His second term hasn't started yet 

[Sighlass]

I have couple of neighbors (sorta being we live on 3 and 1/2 acres). One is Salt of the Earth excellent (need a tool, we share what we have, he even put up a couple of my famous Christmas lights in his trees).... Other neighbor is a good fellow with a wife and one kid from Hades. Daughter (with a drug problem) pulls up and blares rap music with MF this and that and finally I had to tell her I wasn't having it (would call the police). She stopped the crap music (I told her she was welcome to play any music loud she wanted, just not with vulgar language). Other day bumped into her and she acted like nothing had happened. Druggies are funny folks.

[Sighlass]

Amazing how many NT have no manners.  Loud stereo, pooping dog....and they 'dare' to get mad at the person upset, by those BAD MANNERS.  That is how I see it.

This NTer keeps his dog on one of those shock collar systems (so I have surprises all over my yard). The system works great (until the collar battery wears out about twice a year). She (little beagle) know right up to the inch where her roam range ends.  Leaves her with about 1 and 1/2 acres to do her business.

[Smokin Joe]

   When I first bought this house 20 years ago, they called the cops on me 3 times for excessive (Stereo) noise, there is actually a City Ordinance with a hefty fine.   All those people have since moved on (to hell, probably).  Other than the young lady (45ish) closest to me we drink and party often, the other 4, we get along but I avoid them if I can.

When I bought the house, I was just fine until I backed the Harley in. Then, the BS started. Finally, one of the neighbors had the guts to face off with me, and I informed him I didn't know who was the source of complaints against me, but assured him I was there to stay and I'd outlive them all.
We buried the hatchet some time later, but I have outlived them all.
The new kids around aren't so bad, with one exception. There the police visit so often, I have thought about buying the place and getting a zoning change so I could put in a donut shop. (People are creatures of habit, and I'd have a good starting customer base).

[Wingnut]

Amazing how many NT have no manners.  Loud stereo, pooping dog....and they 'dare' to get mad at the person upset, by those BAD MANNERS.  That is how I see it.

If you were my neighbor I'm pretty sure I would shit on your lawn like San Francisco homeless person with the runs. 

[Cyber Liberty]

If you were my neighbor I'm pretty sure I would shit on your lawn like San Francisco homeless person with the runs.

...on the way home from the Steakhouse?

[Smokin Joe]

...on the way home from the Steakhouse?

LOL! I doubt he'd have it in him! 

[Wingnut]

LOL! I doubt he'd have it in him! 

For her I'd ask for a  to-go bag....

[mountaineer]

We built this house 10 years ago and were so happy to move out of the little college town in which we formerly lived. We were surrounded by leftist nutballs there. I hated that place.

 Here, we get along cordially with our neighbors, help each other out when the need arises, but otherwise give each other space.

[Cyber Liberty]

We built this house 10 years ago and were so happy to move out of the little college town in which we formerly lived. We were surrounded by leftist nutballs there. I hated that place.

 Here, we get along cordially with our neighbors, help each other out when the need arises, but otherwise give each other space.

In my new little town, Republicans outnumber Democrats by 3 to 1.

[Smokin Joe]

In my new little town, Republicans outnumber Democrats by 3 to 1.

The nearest town has a "Trump Store", brick and mortar, selling Trump Flags and such. You won't see that back East.

[Cyber Liberty]

The nearest town has a "Trump Store", brick and mortar, selling Trump Flags and such. You won't see that back East.

Three cities in my County with 20-30,000 each have full-time (year round) brick and mortar GOP HQs, and we do a bang up business selling Trump swag.

[roamer_1]

Good Lord willing and the creeks don't rise, by mid summer I won't have any neighbors.

[Cyber Liberty]

Test Post.

[sneakypete]

Yes.

Of course,the closest one is over a mile away,and they have to pass by my house going and coming. We go months and never do more than wave at each other as they pass.

[Applewood]

Grew up in a small, close knit neighborhood where everyone knew everyone else and would help if you asked,  but not meddle. Good people -- never had to worry about crime.  Could leave your doors unlocked and, in summer, wide open when you weren't home. 

Moved to the big city in the 1970s -- what a change! -- where everyone kept to him'herself.  In 1989, I bought a house in the old neighborhood and moved back, Still not a bad place for the first few years, but by the mid-1990s as the older generation died off and the younger generation moved away, the town became infested with gangstas, then illegals and alleged refugees.  As I mentioned elsewhere, the town has now become a dumping ground for the homeless, mentally ill, drug addicts and alcoholics and a few days ago, I learned there is a convicted pedophile living a block away. 

So no, I'm not close to my neighbors.  Don't want to know them. 

[Cyber Liberty]

Grew up in a small, close knit neighborhood where everyone knew everyone else and would help if you asked,  but not meddle. Good people -- never had to worry about crime.  Could leave your doors unlocked and, in summer, wide open when you weren't home. 

Moved to the big city in the 1970s -- what a change! -- where everyone kept to him'herself.  In 1989, I bought a house in the old neighborhood and moved back, Still not a bad place for the first few years, but by the mid-1990s as the older generation died off and the younger generation moved away, the town became infested with gangstas, then illegals and alleged refugees.  As I mentioned elsewhere, the town has now become a dumping ground for the homeless, mentally ill, drug addicts and alcoholics and a few days ago, I learned there is a convicted pedophile living a block away. 

So no, I'm not close to my neighbors.  Don't want to know them.

Well, that sucks!  I guess it's true what they say...You can never really "go home."   

I was never enamored of my original home town back in MI, so the couple of times I decided to move out, it was always someplace new.

[sneakypete]

Grew up in a small, close knit neighborhood where everyone knew everyone else and would help if you asked,  but not meddle. Good people -- never had to worry about crime.  Could leave your doors unlocked and, in summer, wide open when you weren't home. 

Moved to the big city in the 1970s -- what a change! -- where everyone kept to him'herself.  In 1989, I bought a house in the old neighborhood and moved back, Still not a bad place for the first few years, but by the mid-1990s as the older generation died off and the younger generation moved away, the town became infested with gangstas, then illegals and alleged refugees.  As I mentioned elsewhere, the town has now become a dumping ground for the homeless, mentally ill, drug addicts and alcoholics and a few days ago, I learned there is a convicted pedophile living a block away. 

So no, I'm not close to my neighbors.  Don't want to know them.

@Applewood

You might consider moving if you can afford to move and your location isn't dependent on your job.  A used mobile home on a 1 acre lot in the country won't cost that much,and you can live in peace.

[Applewood]

@Applewood

You might consider moving if you can afford to move and your location isn't dependent on your job.  A used mobile home on a 1 acre lot in the country won't cost that much,and you can live in peace.

@sneakypete

Thanks for the advice.  I' had thought about selling a few years ago, but I procrastinated.  Now I'll be lucky if I could recoup the price I paid in 1989.  A shame since I've sunk serious money into the place to improve and maintain it, but I won't get that money back for sure.

I have an aunt, age 88, who is looking into an assisted living/retirement community.  I gathered some info for her and kept a copy for myself.  I may join her.  This community will, if desired, take the house and sell it or whatever to help pay for a client's fees and costs to live there.  Since I'm not going to get any money for the house anyway, I think this might be the best course of action for me. 

[darroll]

I live in libville.
Dopers on one side and lbgwhatever live on the other side.
The dopers don't know Christmas is past. (their Christmas lights are still on)
The others don't do yard work, their attack dogs bark at butterflies and every other mean thing.

[GrouchoTex]

   NT'ers still have rights, ya know @LegalAmerican ~ His second term hasn't started yet

Dayum...
 

[Wingnut]

Good Lord willing and the creeks don't rise, by mid summer I won't have any neighbors.

You got Indians up there.

[libertybele]

I live in libville.
Dopers on one side and lbgwhatever live on the other side.
The dopers don't know Christmas is past. (their Christmas lights are still on)
The others don't do yard work, their attack dogs bark at butterflies and every other mean thing.

Maybe time to move?  Just sayin'

[corbe]

   My neighbor still has her Christmas lights up and turns them on every night, I'd rather not get involved seeing how she's in a HOA and I'm certain she will be getting a cease and desist order soon. 

[roamer_1]

I live in libville.
Dopers on one side and lbgwhatever live on the other side.
The dopers don't know Christmas is past. (their Christmas lights are still on)
The others don't do yard work, their attack dogs bark at butterflies and every other mean thing.

 
I live in redneck town. Well not exactly, cuz I ain't in town. I leave my Christmas lights hung all year long. And you'd be hard-pressed to see my yard mowed, and or worse chance, my neighbors. And you get out of town a little ways, somebody's dog is barking oh, pretty well all the time.

[roamer_1]

You got Indians up there.

I sure hope so!

[berdie]

I love my "neighbors". We don't live too close but will be there in a heartbeat if there is an emergency.

Back in the day when we were all younger...we had cook-outs. No longer, sadly

[Smokin Joe]

I live in redneck town. Well not exactly, cuz I ain't in town. I leave my Christmas lights hung all year long. And you'd be hard-pressed to see my yard mowed, and or worse chance, my neighbors. And you get out of town a little ways, somebody's dog is barking oh, pretty well all the time.

I dunno. Mowing the yard cuts down on ticks, and leaves that much less close in to burn if something gets out of hand.

[roamer_1]

I dunno. Mowing the yard cuts down on ticks, and leaves that much less close in to burn if something gets out of hand.

Sure... mowed down, not 'mown' ... It ain't 4 feet tall or nothin like that... And since I don't water it, once it dries out, one more mow and it ain't growing anymore... so fire is no worry. I cut it to keep in front of it all spring... maybe twice in july, once in august, and forget about it. Even trim it sometimes too... A far cry from the suburban definition, and I am pretty sure most here would be aghast...

Back in the sticks, I'd just let the horses in now and then. 

[roamer_1]

It ain't like I don't have a garden tractor. I have four. And two of them even run.

[sneakypete]

I sure do. Of course,the closest one is a little more than a mile away.

[Cyber Liberty]

Sure... mowed down, not 'mown' ... It ain't 4 feet tall or nothin like that... And since I don't water it, once it dries out, one more mow and it ain't growing anymore... so fire is no worry. I cut it to keep in front of it all spring... maybe twice in july, once in august, and forget about it. Even trim it sometimes too... A far cry from the suburban definition, and I am pretty sure most here would be aghast...

Back in the sticks, I'd just let the horses in now and then. 

The Castle is on about an acre, much of it steep.  The neighborhood all has "Natural Desert" which means everybody just ignores it so it's full of cactus, Manzanita and some tumbleweeds.  We just have to maintain the patch of gravel that surrounds the buildings.

[roamer_1]

We just have to maintain the patch of gravel that surrounds the buildings.

Which generally means 'blow it off a couple times a year' 

I figger I am doing alright if I don't need to bring in the tractor with a brush hog... Which has only happened a couple times. 

[Elderberry]

I get along fairly well with all my neighbors, at least I try. Some years back though, I was at the end of my rope. A woman down the street started calling the cops on me most every day claiming I hadn't moved my truck in over 24 hours. The city had passed a law that you can't block the sidewalk when you park in your driveway. And then there was a new law, you can't park in your yard. So I had to park on the curb. It got so old I prepped the family to document everytime the cops came to see if I could get her for harassment. Then one day the cops came out 3 times on the same day. I had a pretty good idea of who it was so I put the word out for her to cut it out and no more visits by the cops.

[Cyber Liberty]

Which generally means 'blow it off a couple times a year' 

I figger I am doing alright if I don't need to bring in the tractor with a brush hog... Which has only happened a couple times. 

Well, I need to throw pre-emergent on it every spring, after Mrs/ Liberty finishes planting stuff.  90 % of the land needs zero maintenance.  My kind of "lawn."  Mrs. Liberty does have a blow-torch to handle the occasional pop-up weeds.  So, we don't weed or mow, we burn off.  I might be a redneck.

[roamer_1]

Well, I need to throw pre-emergent on it every spring, after Mrs/ Liberty finishes planting stuff.  90 % of the land needs zero maintenance.  My kind of "lawn."  Mrs. Liberty does have a blow-torch to handle the occasional pop-up weeds.  So, we don't weed or mow, we burn off. I might be a redneck.

Close. You still need derelict vehicles, a couch and a freezer on the porch, and a desire and the ability to blow sh*t up... 

[Cyber Liberty]

Close. You still need derelict vehicles, a couch and a freezer on the porch, and a desire and the ability to blow sh*t up... 

The cheapo cigarette store at the res across the river has a nice selection of fireworks.  Tons and tons of mortar shells seems to be their specialty.