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How to disagree well: 7 of the best and worst ways to argue
« on: March 21, 2018, 12:28:54 pm »
In his essay, Graham proposed that the “web is turning writing into a conversation,” recognizing that the internet has become an unprecedented medium of communication. In particular, it allows people to respond to others in comment threads, on forums and the like. And when we respond on the web, we tend to disagree, concluded Graham.
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He says this tendency towards disagreement is structurally built into the online experience because in disagreeing, people tend to have much more to say than if they just expressed that they agreed. Interestingly, Graham points out that, even though it might feel like it if you spend much time in comment sections, the world is not necessarily getting angrier. But it could if we don’t observe a certain restraint in how we disagree. To disagree better, which will lead to better conversations and happier outcomes, Graham came up with these seven levels of a disagreement hierarchy (DH):

http://bigthink.com/paul-ratner/how-to-disagree-well-7-of-the-best-and-worst-ways-to-argue
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Re: How to disagree well: 7 of the best and worst ways to argue
« Reply #1 on: March 21, 2018, 12:32:53 pm »
I know you are, but what am I??
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Interesting article.  I find this:
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But, alas, more often than not, passionate arguments end up having both participants actually arguing about different things. They just don’t see it.
to be true more often than not during marital disagreements.

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Re: How to disagree well: 7 of the best and worst ways to argue
« Reply #2 on: March 21, 2018, 02:33:26 pm »
Quote from: Polly Ticks on March 21, 2018, 12:32:53 pm
I know you are, but what am I??
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Interesting article.  I find this:to be true more often than not during marital disagreements.
Miscommunication is probably the biggest source of conflict, there, often enhanced by alcohol consumption, at least from what I have observed.
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Re: How to disagree well: 7 of the best and worst ways to argue
« Reply #3 on: March 21, 2018, 02:48:50 pm »


From the piece - thanks for posting!
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Re: How to disagree well: 7 of the best and worst ways to argue
« Reply #4 on: March 21, 2018, 03:10:19 pm »
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Re: How to disagree well: 7 of the best and worst ways to argue
« Reply #5 on: March 21, 2018, 03:11:39 pm »
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A classic!  Just showed it to Son #5 on Monday night.
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Re: How to disagree well: 7 of the best and worst ways to argue
« Reply #6 on: March 22, 2018, 01:25:22 am »
Good post, @Blizzardnh  Thanks!
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Re: How to disagree well: 7 of the best and worst ways to argue
« Reply #7 on: March 22, 2018, 02:09:56 am »
Quote from: andy58-in-nh on March 21, 2018, 02:48:50 pm


From the piece - thanks for posting!

Close, but "you are" should be spelled "your".
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Re: How to disagree well: 7 of the best and worst ways to argue
« Reply #8 on: March 22, 2018, 02:48:12 am »
I'll stick with "you're and asshat". I like economical phrasing.
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Re: How to disagree well: 7 of the best and worst ways to argue
« Reply #9 on: March 22, 2018, 07:25:15 pm »
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Close, but "you are" should be spelled "your".

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Re: How to disagree well: 7 of the best and worst ways to argue
« Reply #10 on: March 22, 2018, 07:34:11 pm »
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.
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Re: How to disagree well: 7 of the best and worst ways to argue
« Reply #11 on: March 22, 2018, 10:32:54 pm »
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