I'll tell you what a NeoCon is, and then I'll tell you how I differ from them.
A NeoCon is someone who believes in, or supports the following things. (snip)
That's it! If you guys are willing to accept me with my views, I'll hive you the same respect.
A "neocon" - a new conservative - is a democrat (social liberal) who switched parties because they became disenchanted with their party's weak foreign policy. At least this was the original meaning of the term.
I believe this started wholesale during the latter part of Reagan's administration, due in part to the appeal of its muscular foreign policy and also because of the neocon's desire to co-opt its popularity, and continued under Bush I (all that "Big Tent" BS).
Together with the old Rockefeller wing of the GOP they ended up kind of derailing the Reagan revolution as these folks never really bought into the notion of American exceptionalism, the primacy of the Constitution with its focus on individual sovereignty, and never changed their outlook on the social issues. Instead they saw the US simply as a blunt force instrument by which they could fix problems & inequities they saw abroad.
What you've spelled out are a series of policy beliefs, some held by those calling themselves social conservatives, some by moderates, some by neocons and by liberal republicans. Some by individuals in all groups.
I believe you have misidentified the target group you claim to be in disagreement with.