What did YOU learn? Were you doing a study? Did you remain with the alcoholic date?
@LegalAmerican
I learned a lot. I went to every ANONYMOUS program, there was. ALANON, A.A., E.O, CODEPENDENT, G.A., N.A., ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLIC PARENTS. I wanted to learn for myself, as this was all foreign to me. No one is my family was an addict, gambler, drinker, over-eater, LGBT. Multi-personality disorder. Still dysfunctional, but looked good to the outside world. I went to these programs a few years.
No,I did not remain with the alcoholic. All are liars and create fiction a lot. Make up their own story. Great at manipulation and conning people. All cheated on their wives. There was a joke in the 12 step program, about the 13th step! That was the males who put the make on someone in recovery, to 'date' them. At one AA meeting, a man with his wife, (lovely person) came on to me, right in front of her and complimented me outrageously! RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER.
Anyone with an alcoholic, is in for a roller coaster life. Male or female. They have zero empathy. They are fun. Talk about doing crazy things in public or private. Most men like this 'crazy'. After a while, it goes to forgery on checks, taking money out of banks, (but name not on account), doing all sorts if illegal behaviors. And of course, begging their girlfriend, for money. To pay their rent, fine, whatever. There are safeguards now, put into place, but not, BACK THEN. This is why so much banking has changed. All kind of fraud, scams, by NON-RIGHTS.
I LEARNED A LOT. SCHOOL OF HARD KNOCKS. LIFE WAS NOT BORING. When it got really sad, I used to say to myself, "Well, when I look back later in life, it was NOT BORING."
I dated two gay men, although, each had children. I was very naive. I though gay men wouldn't have children. WRONG. lol I thought these men respected me and that was why they, didn't push for sex in the relationship. HETERO'S would be all over me! I couldn't breathe. Blouse torn. Pushed up against wall. ALL ON FIRST DATE. I guess, this should do it.
I was built like M.M. I am old now.