I have two books in my library that can teach great life lessons. One is Everything I Needed To Know I Learned From John Wayne. A good reference book on how to live. The other one is The Official John Wayne Handy Book For Men. It tells you how to do a lot of things like camping, hunting, driving, you know, what real men should know how to do. They are both great reads.
Aah, but the woke generation would simply tell you and John Wayne that you were both locked, as were so many of your generation, in masculine primacy.
So rather than manning up, you should simply lose your pair, like so many eunuchs of the woke generation have.