That's a reasonable statement. Most of the gays I know with whom I've talked to about the subject think they were always that way, but none are in the category of promiscuous, bathhouse-lifestyle gays. They all yearned to find their true love and settle down, and have been in stable relationships for decades. It is for these friends that I've become such an advocate for gay marriage - and why I could not ultimately stay in a church that insists they be labeled abominations.
We recently had this discussion at the church I attend (Lutheran). The Evangelical Lutheran Church is moving more and more in the direction of accepting gays, whereas there are a number of local splinter groups joining a more doctrinaire organization called "Common Core" in order to announce themselves as more orthodox. We had a very contentious meeting last Sunday as to whether we should join Common Core.
The discussion was quite robust and thoughtful, with the orthodox types talking about the bible as our source for the rules of morality, and how if we accept the bible as the word of God, we have to regard homosexuality as a sin, just as all sex outside of marriage is a sin, and that gay marriage falls outside the bounds of the bible's definition of marriage. The liberals in the congregation talked about being on the wrong side of history, and compared this to slavery (quite a compelling argument in central Pennsylvania, in a congregation made up of the great grandchildren of abolitionists).
Because I am not a member of the congregation (although my wife and I have been going there every Sunday for over 6 months), the pastor asked us to count the votes. It was 60/40 in favor of the Common Core, which surprised me. I thought it would be higher.
Myself, I see both sides of this, and I don't choose my church based on this issue. My wife was Anglican before she moved to the USA, and she had a gay female pastor in her old church for many years, so she does not see how this is any big deal. I have sympathy for those who say we don't choose what is in the bible, it is fixed. It is rather unambiguous when it comes to this issue. On the other hand, I think I'd rather be in a church that was more inclusive, and I am certain Jesus Christ himself would as well.
I guess that is the underlying question: how would Christ regard homosexuals? I have no doubt He would love them. But would He regard them as in need of repentance? Or would He recognize gay love as "love" in the biblical sense. I simply don't know for certain. The Christ I understand in my heart would perform gay marriages. But the one I read about in the pages of the New Testament would not. That, for me, is my conundrum. Nonetheless, it doesn't matter what the majority of people in the church I attend think.
For me, my Christian morality is a personal journey, and I am not one to join groups. And so I will worship in pretty much any place I am welcome.