I do think about it. In fact, I get to know people qua people, and not as representatives of this or that category, and, having dated a girl in college who was in the theatre arts department, and now having lived in NYC for 12 years, I've met quite a few gay people, and I can tell you for a fact, a cold, hard, fact, that being homosexual is not just some lifestyle choice, to be made the same way one decides to choose chocolate or strawberry ice cream. I can also tell you for a fact, a cold, hard, fact, that most of the people I know are good people who simply want to live their own lives by their own lights, without having others getting in their faces and denying them common courtesies because they're gay.
Where did I say that attraction to people of the same sex was a 'choice?' (Answer: I didn't. It was
you who said that heterosexuality was a choice. I said nothing about a lifestyle choice either way).
There's a reason you reacted in anger when I said that 'they keep trying,' but it clearly had nothing to do with what I actually said or think. I have no idea why you react so viscerally against me, but this is not the first time you have behaved in a very irrational manner to things I have said and it needs to stop.
Some thoughts:
For a long time we were told there was a 'gay gene,' when there was not. Now they are trying out something, which probably will prove to be false. My problem with modern 'studies' is that they are not objective (i.e concerned with 'facts'). They are trying to prove a point, because of a belief system, and that creates false studies and skewed results. We've seen that in spades with scientific 'research' on climate change. Now there is desperation to prove that homosexuality is 'normal,' when it is not.
You make some troubling assumptions based on your disdain for me personally (at least my belief in moral law), and you don't read what I say, or think about it beyond an emotional reaction........ and I'm going to try to clear up your errors as plainly as I can to help prevent your eruptions on further thread.
This is what I believe, based on moral law, observation, and the love of Christ in me:
Homosexuals are most likely not 'born that way.' They most likely have had some trauma in their lives that took a normal childhood attraction to someone of the same sex (most of us have had a 'crush' on an elementary teacher or coach of the same sex) and distorted it. They may have abuse in their childhood, or most likely neglect. They may have an absent father, or one who doesn't have time for them. Some may be pushed by cultural stereotypes into relationships with those of the same sex. For example, our culture teaches that boys cannot cry easily, be sensitive, be musical or artistic, must be athletic, etc. Girls who are athletic or aggressive are looked down upon, and are frequently not seen as attractive to 'boys.'.....
There are a myriad of psychological reasons that may drive people to homosexuality, but that is not the normal human condition. We are heterosexual beings, and in our sin, either way, we are loved by God, and we are commanded to love each other, even though we don't condone each other's behaviors.
Now as to 'choice.' BOTH homosexual and heterosexual
behavior is choice. Whether or not one's 'orientation' goes toward attraction to the same or opposite sex, one makes a choice to act on those feelings. Because of that, each of us is responsible for the behavior we choose. It's not thrust upon us to be permissive because of our 'orientation' one way or the other, but the way we choose to behave is our own responsibility. As a Christian, I believe that only heterosexual sex within marriage is moral. That leaves most of the sex going on now outside the will of God, and were I to hate everyone having sex outside of marriage, I would be disobedient to God's law.
Now as to your very wrong assumptions about how I feel about the people who are sinners, one way or the other. I am a sinner too, forgiven only by God's grace. I do not condemn others for being sinners, nor do I treat others wrongly because they are sinners, just as I am. I am commanded to love others, and I try to do that (though it's tough with some people). I had a doctor who cheated on his wife and had several affairs after that. I did not treat him any differently even though he was outside of God's law.
I do not treat the homosexuals I know any differently than I treat heterosexuals. (In fact, some of the ones I know are the sweetest people on the face of the earth). I do not in any way condone harsh treatment of homosexuals, nor do I think of them as 'lesser' people. Your assumption that I get in anyone's face, or deny them common courtesy is ludicrous and mean. Do I deny people in heterosexual relationships outside God's plan 'common courtesy?' What a
hateful thing to assume of me.
At any rate, should this subject come up and should we both be on the same thread, I would hope in the future that you
think about your response to me..... keep your emotional personal attacks (Soviet apparatchiks?? Are you freaking KIDDING me??) and false assumptions (that I hate and deny 'facts) out of it, no matter what the origin of your bias is...... and try discussing the issue without personally condemning and attacking me simply because I disagree with you.
