I'm sure I'll get knocked for this one, but here goes.
While in AIT I was walking along with my husband holding hands. A DI came up and warned against PDA's.
*yes, in the military holding hands is a public display of affection, you can also get a court martial for a hickey*
This particular DI was strict. Had to respect that. But the reminder was given, when you sign that paper you cease to be an American Citizen and now become a piece of government property. You do not have the same rights as Citizens.
You were also issued EVERYTHING you will need to serve in the US Military in the first few days of boot camp. Families are not issued.
Families are not the responsibility of the United States Military. If you choose to have one, they will allow it, tolerate it, even try to be somewhat accommodating in some respects, but they are NOT a necessity therefor not their responsibility.
Try asking a soldier about hardship tour in S. Korea, they'll tell you.
I understand the sentiment behind the objection but it's just that, sentiment. It has no place in the Military. If we are that concerned with the welfare of military families, we need to give to charities who help them out. There are lots of them.