Sounds like that Chicken/egg thingy.
I think the key to less sanity lies in obsession over what other people think of what you think.
Young women might be most susceptible to angst over that, while most of us curmudgeons couldn't care less.
It's power. Women are being told to participate in the male hierarchy. Those who listen to that are liberals. They believe it to be their right and their mission.
The truth is that there are, and always have been two hierarchies... One male, one female, with different rites of passage, hallmarks, ways to ascend, type toward power, and ways to destruction.
All of that is not male. it is not a lesser hierarchy. It is different, entirely. apples and oranges.
Trying to function outside of their instinctive ken is horribly damaging... As those males that choose the other way around also demonstrate. They don't fit either.