At times my wife will deliver a ten minute soliloquy about events of the day, plans for the future, and other oddball stuff.
I might be able to take in half of what she says.
But she expects me to remember everything she says in detail. Which is well beyond my capability.
When I ask her about something, she will usually respond "I TOLD!!! you that yesterday...you never listen to me."
I do listen to her as far as my limited attention span allows.
But, of course, the reverse does not hold. When she asks me about something I had informed her of just that morning, I don't get upset that what I told her didn't register. I accept it as just being part of any human's limitations as far as not being able to comprehend and retain every utterance directed at them.
But does the wife agree with that...oh no.. I'm DELIBERATELY!!!! ignoring her/not paying attention.
Sorry...it will happen again, but life will go on.
That's about right. And it goes the other way around... I can't tell you how many times I explained the importance of one simple thing to my ex... When the car starts making ANY funny noise that aint common, and particularly if it starts billowing something - shut it OFF, RIGHT THERE, and pull the thing over, call me and I will come with the trailer.
FOUR... Now hear me... FOUR motors that woman tried to drive home. And one of those burned the car clean down. Even me fixin em myself, them are thousand dollar hits right there, at the least.
Can't say I just let em go by (though the first one I did)... It's the kind of thing to surely get me hot. But I got hot, it blew over, and I went out to fix em, YET again...
And she's blowed up two more since we been divorced... And them are a helluva lot more expensive now, as her new 'man' don't know a screw driver from a hole in the wall. Thank God and Greyhound, that ain't my problem no more...