Lest the point be missed, I will reiterate: We ain't wrong, we ain't sorry, and it's probably going to happen again.
YES, btw... We are pretending to be listening... With the 2 sentence auto-rewind engaged. But that in itself is a deference and a sign of respect.
I am never ever going to be interested in 3/4ths of the stuff y'all unload when we get home... I don't give a rusty sh*t for Aunt Nellie's second cousin's sister and the troubles she might be having. I flatly don't care about all the gossip going on in the church and the neighborhood and all sorts of people I don't even know.
But it's important to you - So I pretend. And I write the check.
But lest you think that cold - I may not be listening to what you are saying, But THAT you are saying it is important to me. It's a thing a woman does only to HER man. and that is a good distinction and an honor... And while I ain't listening to what you are saying... There is a music to it that I will tell you that I truly do miss being alone.
At times my wife will deliver a ten minute soliloquy about events of the day, plans for the future, and other oddball stuff.
I might be able to take in half of what she says.
But she expects me to remember everything she says in detail. Which is well beyond my capability.
When I ask her about something, she will usually respond "I TOLD!!! you that yesterday...you never listen to me."
I do listen to her as far as my limited attention span allows.
But, of course, the reverse does not hold. When she asks me about something I had informed her of just that morning, I don't get upset that what I told her didn't register. I accept it as just being part of any human's limitations as far as not being able to comprehend and retain every utterance directed at them.
But does the wife agree with that...oh no.. I'm DELIBERATELY!!!! ignoring her/not paying attention.
Sorry...it will happen again, but life will go on.