@skeeter
I forgot to tell you this part: It was easy leaving California when you are in love! And I found I don't miss the beach as much as I thought I would. The beach becomes part of your life, and that was my biggest fear when I moved to AZ. I was about two miles from the ocean when I left. I do miss that wonderful onshore breeze. Nothing like it. And there is an aroma there -- perhaps dead fish -- but an aroma nonetheless. When we visit, I recognize it.
So do not be afraid of leaving. There are plenty of places in these here United States you can call "home."
Do you think there is a chance that California will become a bit more "normal"? I am not talking about Los Angeles or San Francisco, but the rest of the state. You may not want to leave if you can make a difference there.
Just thinking...
Its the negative ions crashing waves create... the
stoke is real.

As far as California normalizing, it may, but not in my lifetime I'm afraid. We're too segmented; economically, socially, racially.
And the longer it takes the feds to get immigration under control, and return the electoral process to where it is supposed to be (meaning for citizens only) the longer it will take for things to normalize.
I wish I were more optimistic.