The Briefing Room
General Category => General Discussion => Topic started by: mirraflake on July 06, 2016, 03:29:28 pm
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Duck face pout lips for one
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3676185/Making-duck-faces-make-grandma-shawls-tongue-cheek-rundown-men-attractive-women-according-Reddit.html
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I'd say looks wise too much makeup is the #1 turnoff. I do not like the plastiface look.
Personality wise, the #1 turnoff is women who hold men to higher standard than they hold themselves. No use for hypocrisy.
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Outside personality and or lack of intelligence, I agree with too much makeup. We call it the "I sell Mary Kay at church billboard". Also the infamous, "I want to speak to your manager" haircut.
(https://www.similarweb.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/speak-to-a-manager-haircut.jpg)
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A local woman has one of those beegle dog haircuts..looks good from the front but the back is hideous.
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Poor spelling.
Title corrected. :tongue2:
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Outside personality and or lack of intelligence, I agree with too much makeup. We call it the "I sell Mary Kay at church billboard". Also the infamous, "I want to speak to your manager" haircut.
(https://www.similarweb.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/speak-to-a-manager-haircut.jpg)
Love the Mirena ear rings!
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Outside personality and or lack of intelligence, I agree with too much makeup. We call it the "I sell Mary Kay at church billboard". Also the infamous, "I want to speak to your manager" haircut.
(https://www.similarweb.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/speak-to-a-manager-haircut.jpg)
That hair would be a deal breaker for sure. I place hair and eyes as the most attractive feature. When they go out of their way to ruin it - well you have what you see in the photo.
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A nagging woman is like being pecked to death by a duck.
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A list which hits the basics, but is not all-inclusive.
Sloth.
Women who swear gratuitously, having bought into the idea it makes them look 'strong'.
Excessive makeup.
Vocal stress (indicator of falsehood).
Hot-button resentments toward men, coupled with generalizations (which are often used to rationalize getting even with some poor slob who had nothing to do with whatever ticked her off in the first place)
Women who aren't comfortable in their own skin (covered or not). These are people who are always trying to be someone else they are not. Not a good sign.
Remodelers. I am not a remodeling project, thankyouverymuch. Constructive criticism and advice aside, I am fundamentally happy being who I am, so why change that?
Drunks, druggies, and Liberals need not apply. If she thinks the ends justify any means, fair or foul, well, bye!
Women who have no sense of humor, or who have one which finds cruelty or humiliation funny.
Women who don't like kids and dogs.
Women whose mind is made up, unless, of course, we agree. :laugh:
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I like makeup on a girl personally, I don't like spray tans, "jogger suits", pants with stuff written on the asses,plastic surgery, duckface, being excessively "tarted up", and bitchiness in general. Megan Fox is your stereotypical "hot girl" yet because she exhibits many of these qualities I find her distasteful.
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a cigarette hanging out of her mouth is a real turn off for me.
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Tattoos always mystify me.
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This is starting to read like Playmate Data Sheet, Missing are a birthdate, measurements, but the turn-ons, and turn-offs are represented! :)
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My personal dead list:
-smokers
-tattoos
-women who curse frequently though my wife can let out a MF'er on occasion when the horses do something stupid
-fake titties and lot's of makeup
-radical feminist though my wife is sorta 2nd wave 1970's feminist-equal pay, job opportunity types. She can't stand the 3rd wave feminist.
-fatties
-humorless prudes
-no ambition in life types
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Duck face pout lips for one
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3676185/Making-duck-faces-make-grandma-shawls-tongue-cheek-rundown-men-attractive-women-according-Reddit.html
Vocal fry. Irritating as heck.
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If the right pheromones walk by and attract you, the lists go out the window. What we want and what we get can be two very different things because there is more than our intellect at play in choosing a partner. Your mind will work overtime to justify the difference if your chemically attracted to someone. Sometimes that is a good thing and sometimes that is a very bad thing.
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The Universal Hot vs Crazy Matrix...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwbKYcBdVyk
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Tattoos always mystify me.
'Mystify' is one word for it. In the M.E. and Asia, slave women, prisoners, and prostitutes, are often tattooed. An ordinary woman would not do this to herself voluntarily.
But, even on a practical level, once a woman gets a tattoo with color, she has to deal with it the rest of her life, in terms of matching her lipstick, clothing, and shoes, to some stupid tattoo that she got on spring break when she was 19. That is a heavy burden to bear for a lifetime. And the more tattoos a person gets, the more freakish they look as they age.
I don't know. I guess my time traveling the world has put me off tattoos because I have seen them used too often to mark property. Some people like it. I don't. And I could not bear the idea of my child suckling at a teat while staring into a devil skull tattoo the whole time. But, I suppose I'm just prudish that way. All that stuff is not for me.
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Having been married only once, and remaining so for 48.5 years, let me just say:
Italian women, German cars, Mexican food and Irish music.
My wife is simply the very best human being that I have met. She gives, rather than takes.
She is emotional, without losing control or her mind. She has great judgment. She works very hard.
She is also beautiful. Has a nice figure. She can wear her hair in styles of her choice. She can wear makeup, or not.
I am not worthy.
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Having been married only once, and remaining so for 48.5 years, let me just say:
Italian women, German cars, Mexican food and Irish music.
My wife is simply the very best human being that I have met. She gives, rather than takes.
She is emotional, without losing control or her mind. She has great judgment. She works very hard.
She is also beautiful. Has a nice figure. She can wear her hair in styles of her choice. She can wear makeup, or not.
I am not worthy.
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Having been married only once, and remaining so for 48.5 years, let me just say:
Italian women, German cars, Mexican food and Irish music.
My wife is simply the very best human being that I have met. She gives, rather than takes.
She is emotional, without losing control or her mind. She has great judgment. She works very hard.
She is also beautiful. Has a nice figure. She can wear her hair in styles of her choice. She can wear makeup, or not.
I am not worthy.
Like most of us men folk here...you sir, married up! :beer:
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Like most of us men folk here...you sir, married up! :beer:
At the time, it appeared very much to be the other way. My family was more prosperous in material terms, she being something of a "minority" in my family's way of viewing things at the time. Plus she was a Catholic, God forbid.
Boy 19, girl 17 married because "they had to." The wisdom of the day was it would never last. Well, we get the last word on that.
My brothers and sisters loved her from the start. Eventually my parents realized they were wrong, that they were fortunate that their son got such a find.
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LOL T_S! Well I celebrated my 33rd yesterday and everyone who knew me (including my brother) came up to my wife before the wedding and said: "Are you sure you wan't to go thu with this?"
True story, Oh...and there is nothing wrong with being a crappie cruncher! Most uf us are pretty well grounded! :smokin:
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Liberalism and feminism are a no go for me.
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Liberalism and feminism are a no go for me.
Not all feminist are bad. My wife is 60's and 70's 2nd wave feminist-equal pay, right to vote kinda gal. She is pro choice and has no problem with gay rights but is conservative to the core everywhere else, small gov't, pro 2nd amend, close the borders, strong military, low taxes, wants major tort reform etc etc.
There are many conservative women like her...women who look upon themselves as conservatives rather than liberals even though they are pro choice.
My wife rarely brings up politics-does not interest her..she has her horses that is her life.
@Weird Tolkienish Figure
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If the right pheromones walk by and attract you, the lists go out the window. What we want and what we get can be two very different things because there is more than our intellect at play in choosing a partner. Your mind will work overtime to justify the difference if your chemically attracted to someone. Sometimes that is a good thing and sometimes that is a very bad thing.
My dead list is a dead list. No pheromones or chemistry would make me date a smoker or a woman tatted up.
@LilLamb
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Having been married only once, and remaining so for 48.5 years, let me just say:
Italian women, German cars, Mexican food and Irish music.
My wife is simply the very best human being that I have met. She gives, rather than takes.
She is emotional, without losing control or her mind. She has great judgment. She works very hard.
She is also beautiful. Has a nice figure. She can wear her hair in styles of her choice. She can wear makeup, or not.
I am not worthy.
This site really needs a like button.
@truth_seeker
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Pheromones = flatulence.
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Pheromones = flatulence.
Dutch oven anyone
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1. Women who smell like an ashtray.
2. Women who look like they ran through a cosmetics factory at 60 miles an hour.
3. Women with no sense of humor.
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Having been married only once, and remaining so for 48.5 years, let me just say:
Italian women, German cars, Mexican food and Irish music.
My wife is simply the very best human being that I have met. She gives, rather than takes.
She is emotional, without losing control or her mind. She has great judgment. She works very hard.
She is also beautiful. Has a nice figure. She can wear her hair in styles of her choice. She can wear makeup, or not.
I am not worthy.
What a wonderful tribute to your wife. My wife and I are about to celebrate our 25th anniversary (July 21st). She is also the most amazing woman I ever met or will ever meet.
Now, this got me thinking: Italian women, German cars, Mexican food and Irish music.
Excellent choices. Better than Mexican women, Italian cars, Irish food and German music.
But that's just been my experience. :beer:
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At this point in my life, with the way single women have treated me, I find the whole lot unattractive.
I literally saw a friend of mine post pictures of her new girlfriend and had to stop myself from replying "good God, that girl's ugly. Were you that desperate?"
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At this point in my life, with the way single women have treated me, I find the whole lot unattractive.
I literally saw a friend of mine post pictures of her new girlfriend and had to stop myself from replying "good God, that girl's ugly. Were you that desperate?"
For the life of me I can't figure how women find you unattractive with your wonderful charm.
@jmyrlefuller
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For the life of me I can't figure how women find you unattractive with your wonderful charm.
Hey, it took me years of rejection to become this cynical.
And no, I don't actually act like that in the few opportunities I do get with women—that inevitably always fail, no matter what I do.
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Hey, it took me years of rejection to become this cynical.
And no, I don't actually act like that in the few opportunities I do get with women—that inevitably always fail, no matter what I do.
It's the avatar. 8888forgot
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It's the avatar. 8888forgot
@jmyrlefuller
You may be right... talk to @Cripplecreek about subliminal messaging ;) :silly: :smokin: :whistle:
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No one is turned off by broads in sweatpants......in public?
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Liberalism and feminism are a no go for me.
Yeah but liberal chicks are E-Z.... :silly:
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Yeah but liberal chicks are E-Z.... :silly:
Not all of them, alas, but in regard to the ones that are easy—you'd better be ready for the consequences! Thankfully I had the wisdom to stay away from those types like the Plague.
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No one is turned off by broads in sweatpants......in public?
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@Frank Cannon Sexy! I bet she's taken. All the good ones are. :(
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Women who insist on either dominating or being dominated.
I refuse to be dominated by anyone at anytime and in any place,and I flat out refuse to dominate anyone but children at home. Not even a fan of dominating children,but it's either do that or raise wild animals you end up having to post bond for when they become teenagers. Parents have a responsibility to do their best to raise responsible and civilized children,not spoiled little arrogant shitheads.
Don't get me wrong,if push comes to shove I WILL be the one in charge,but those situations had better be rare.
Home is a place to relax and enjoy yourself,not a place to battle wills.
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This is one hilarious thread. That's all I'll say.
I like the idea there is such a critter as a woman that isn't crazy. Oh,I recognize and approve of the theory,but the reality is VERY different.
It's the level of crazy that should be your first concern. Understanding they are all crazy going in is vital because if you can't recognize that you can't develop a personal filter to separate a "possible after checking out her mother and sisters" from a "Oh,hell NO,run for your life" candidate. This is WAAAAY more important than looks because looks will fade in time but crazy just gains strength as they age and wear you down.
No need to tell you what to look for. If you are over 25,you already know.
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Yeah but liberal chicks are E-Z.... :silly:
Chuckling....conservative woman are just as bad if not worse.
I go to horse shows on occasion with my wife ..you ought to see those pick up driving, gun owning conservative country gals when they get out of town. I can't keep up with who is sleeping or cheating with whom. The host hotel parties are legendary-hookup-sex parties. Gals tuck their horses in for the night and they get down. Adultery is rampant.
I learned about women's "secret life" many years ago. Multiply x 3 whatever a woman tells you. If she says she had sex with 3 guys before marriage the real number is 9. On their FB page they post romantic memes and puppy pics but out of town they are hooking up with guys left and right.
Women are masters at keeping their sex lives discreet and they have way more sex then men
@East of the Beast
@jmyrlefuller
@RAT Patrol
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Yeah but liberal chicks are E-Z.... :silly:
One of life's simplest lessons took me a while. NICE girls do, too.
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One of life's simplest lessons took me a while. NICE girls do, too.
Amen.. see my post above
@Smokin Joe
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I'm just here getting a kick out of how you guys see us.
Me, too. We need a counterpart thread for the ladies of the Briefing Room.
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No comment on the latest portion of this conversation. Boys will be boys.
I'm not exaggerating or lied what I said. It's true.
When I was 17 back in the late 70's I worked at my uncles gas station. I was playing 2 sports in HS and pumping iron and wore tight jeans and was a damn good looking kid for 17.
You would not believe what women would say or do. The first week I worked there was a woman in her late 30 or early 40's who said after I pumper her gas and went up to her window for payment "How about a kiss?" And that was mild. I was offered straight out sex numerous times by women 30, 40, 50 and 60+ years old.
This trend you see of older women having sex with men <18 is nothing new. The only difference today is cell phones, photos and text messages are hanging these women.
Trust me when I say this..just because you may have never done these things many many many other women have. it's not Boys will be boys but girls will be girls.
@RAT Patrol
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I would be one of the crazy tribe. LOL. I'm just here getting a kick out of how you guys see us.
(http://www.madcow.club/images/memes/20/al-bundy-dont-understand-women-meme.jpg)
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Me, too. We need a counterpart thread for the ladies of the Briefing Room.
Go for it. We can learn to better ourselves. :)
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Me, too. We need a counterpart thread for the ladies of the Briefing Room.
Yeah, but men already know what is wrong and makes them unattractive, well the married ones do anyways. :whistle: Our problem is that we don't care. :smokin:
Beer guts,
Having a beer gut or having rolls of fat hanging down
Being overweight in general
Being less than 6' tall
The toilet seat thing
The which way the tp is supposed to unroll thing
The toothpaste tube thing
Not wiping the mud off our boots
Leaving said muddy boots in the middle of the floor
Leaving the socks that went in said boots elsewhere on the floor
Watching too much football (especially when this time could have been spent cleaning the boots, and doing laundry)
Not being sensitive enough (meaning is unclear and no man is ever free of this)
Not being romantic enough (also unclear so shoot for the moon you can't overdo it)
Double dipping in the salsa
Not communicating enough (talking about guns, hunting, boating, fishing, camping or anything you are remotely interested in doesn't count)
Wearing Overalls
Having a normal voice (You must either be Sam Elliot or Steve Perry, ranges in between need not inquire, high voices must be able to sing Romantic songs)
I'm sure there's a longer list out there this is just the few that rise to my mind. Needless to say men are disgusting except for Sean Connery and Johnny Depp whom women find irresistible.
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Me, too. We need a counterpart thread for the ladies of the Briefing Room.
What about the transgendereds like me? Don't we get a space too?
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What about the transgendereds like me? Don't we get a space too?
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@mirraflake @sneakypete
Everything you guys say is true. I love women, talk to them all the time, and get along great, but I've not found very many I'd get involved with these days.
If they're not crazy they're devious and untrustworthy and unstable. Often all three. It mostly devolves into a dominate or be dominated situation. Between the feminism, hollywood decadence culture, and social media, alot of women today at all ages are off the rails. You practically have to be a uncaring douche to have a woman, and that's not my game.
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What about the transgendereds like me? Don't we get a space too?
Get in line. We got 50 or so other gender self-identity classification safe spaces to set up too. It takes time, and this is a union shop.
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Yeah, but men already know what is wrong and makes them unattractive, well the married ones do anyways. :whistle: Our problem is that we don't care. :smokin:
Beer guts, .......
Haven't you heard, 'dad bods' are the in thing now for women.
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@mirraflake @sneakypete
If they're not crazy they're devious and untrustworthy and unstable.
A recently divorced friend of mine has been hitting the dating sites. He knew things would be bad right out of the get go when 4 out of 5 women he met from matches.com- the photos they shown on the site were at least 15 years old and 25 lbs+ lighter.
I'm glad I won the wife lottery and don't have to deal with the dating mess today. God forbid is something happened to my wife no way would I get married. I know some guys and gal who have recently found love and they are happy but it's
rough out there today
@Free Vulcan
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Mrs. Joe even laughed at and agreed with that one.
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A recently divorced friend of mine has been hitting the dating sites. He knew things would be bad right out of the get go when 4 out of 5 women he met from matches.com- the photos they shown on the site were at least 15 years old and 25 lbs+ lighter.
I'm glad I won the wife lottery and don't have to deal with the dating mess today. God forbid is something happened to my wife no way would I get married. I know some guys and gal who have recently found love and they are happy but it's
rough out there today
@Free Vulcan
LOL! It has always been rough.
We were younger, bulletproof, and had more patience to deal with it (or the 'free T' levels were just too high to care...)
I'm glad I'm not out there in that wilderness, either.
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I would never remarry...been married 46 years in just a few days and he still isn't trained...I don't have time to start over!
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@Smokin Joe
54 Year Old Catholic City Boy Married To A Country Cowgirl
Ok,I know why you married a "Country/Protestant Girl". I had a Italian guy from NYC tell me in army basic training that he hoped to get stationed in the south because unlike Catholic girls,Protestant girls "put out". He just looked puzzled when I asked him "Where do all the little Catholics come from?"
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A recently divorced friend of mine has been hitting the dating sites. He knew things would be bad right out of the get go when 4 out of 5 women he met from matches.com- the photos they shown on the site were at least 15 years old and 25 lbs+ lighter.
I'm glad I won the wife lottery and don't have to deal with the dating mess today. God forbid is something happened to my wife no way would I get married. I know some guys and gal who have recently found love and they are happy but it's
rough out there today
@Free Vulcan
I have a lot of single female friends and they generally fall into two categories; 30 somethings that are still trying to date like they did in college, choosing the guy with the jacked up truck and Ed Hardy shirt who goes clubbing every night. The problem is that doesn't translate well to an adult and they always are complaining about crappy guys.
The other category is the 40 something professional set who are type a personalities and content with their life. Most of them are real catches (hot, smart, wealthy, not crazy), but don't have time for dating games.
Sadly I can't find any of my bros to set up with any of them.
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@Smokin Joe
Ok,I know why you married a "Country/Protestant Girl". I had a Italian guy from NYC tell me in army basic training that he hoped to get stationed in the south because unlike Catholic girls,Protestant girls "put out". He just looked puzzled when I asked him "Where do all the little Catholics come from?"
That tagline is from @mirraflake's post, just to clear up attribution.
I grew up in the tidewater on a tobacco farm. My family goes back to early colonial times, and yep, I'm Catholic, but a mite older. I moved west and married a gal from an 'older family'--She's Chippewa, and her kinfolk have been around a mite longer than mine.
He just looked puzzled when I asked him "Where do all the little Catholics come from?"
Why, good girls, of course! (not implying that there is a Catholic exclusive on 'good girls') :laugh:
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Al pretty much nailed it down tight.
A woman I have lived (for a VERY brief time) with twice was telling me a few months ago that she was having trouble with husband number 6,and just couldn't understand why she always picked the wrong men to marry.
No kidding. It had never occurred to her that maybe,JUST MAYBE,SHE might be the "floater in the punch bowl". I know this because she just looked confused when I broke out into hysterical laughter. After all,I had known her since before she married her first husband,and had lived with her twice,too. Beautiful woman in her late 50's that can still wear the same size clothes she was wearing in high school when she was a majorette with the marching band,but she absolutely destroys the old theory that only intelligent people can be crazy. Apparently no understanding at all is necessary.
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@mirraflake @sneakypete
If they're not crazy they're devious and untrustworthy and unstable. Often all three. It mostly devolves into a dominate or be dominated situation.
BINGO!
AND.......,it is all YOUR fault!
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We are bashing the women here about not being catches but today's men are not anything to drool over.
Any woman or man who does not do a criminal, marriage record and financial background check on their latest squeeze is a fool. $25 internet anonymous background check is cheap insurance before things get hot and heavy.
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@Smokin Joe
Ok,I know why you married a "Country/Protestant Girl". I had a Italian guy from NYC tell me in army basic training that he hoped to get stationed in the south because unlike Catholic girls,Protestant girls "put out". He just looked puzzled when I asked him "Where do all the little Catholics come from?"
My wife is also Catholic and never wanted children-nor did I . Her Italian-Catholic mom basically told her she was going to hell for not having kids.
@sneakypete
@Smokin Joe
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... I know some guys and gal who have recently found love and they are happy but it's
rough out there today
@Smokin Joe
@Free Vulcan
They are either faking it because they can't admit to failure again,or they are lucky,lucky people. The world is a different place than it was to prior to the 1960's. Most people that got married back then had known who they were marrying since at least the 1st grade,and knew the families they came from. When they did get married,they got married with the idea that "this is for life",and both understood there were going to be compromises that had to be made in order to live peacefully and happy.
Not so today. Practically everybody over 25 has been married at least once,and survived several shack jobs. They usually don't really know the people they are shacking up with or marrying,and are doing so based on how attractive they are and how much money they make. Character never even comes into the discussion.
The end result is that practically everybody on those dating boards is a practiced liar with a chip on their shoulders more ready to "win" the first argument than they are to reach understanding with each other.
Looking great naked or with clothes on as a trophy is nice,but that ain't what you have to live with. Character,or the lack of it is what is important because no one lacking in character can be trusted and no one that can't be trusted will ever be a lifemate.
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We are bashing the women here about not being catches but today's men are not anything to drool over.
Any woman or man who does not do a criminal, marriage record and financial background check on their latest squeeze is a fool. $25 internet anonymous background check is cheap insurance before things get hot and heavy.
Very true. In my late 40's now and never married, have pretty much seen as much as I want to. Bottom line is society has devolved, particularly in the relationship arena, men and women both. Even people I've known since childhood just don't have the moral structure and fortitude they used to. It's so easy to get lax, and the younger generation has almost no moral upbringing at all in many cases.
Things have changed drastically in the dating scene in just 10 years. Attitudes are totally different, people have become very imbalanced and ungrounded. Lots more self-absorbed, opportunistic behavior and unrealistic expectations than I've ever seen. I hardly feel like I'm missing out on much.
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What about the transgendereds like me? Don't we get a space too?
Have you got that surgery paid off yet? I think the bumper to bumper warranty is about to expire too.
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Looking great naked or with clothes on as a trophy is nice,but that ain't what you have to live with. Character,or the lack of it is what is important because no one lacking in character can be trusted and no one that can't be trusted will ever be a lifemate.
My advice to the kids is to avoid the dating boards. Find a friend, get to know them. Learn to trust each other, or if you can trust each other. If you can't trust, if you can't be friends, too, that isn't the one. If you find that out before lawyers, a property settlement (and the Archdiocese) have to be involved, you are way ahead.
Then, if you have decided to tie the knot, keep separate checking accounts and credit cards. You will avoid more hassles that way.
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LOL. OK, it is the interaction between the two of you that I miss the most. :silly:
I know. Don't you just luv the big lug! Deep down He's a cuddly bear.... Well, Since the operation a mama bear... but still.....
Oh Look... Porridge
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Gold diggers
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Things have changed drastically in the dating scene in just 10 years. Attitudes are totally different, people have become very imbalanced and ungrounded. Lots more self-absorbed, opportunistic behavior and unrealistic expectations than I've ever seen. I hardly feel like I'm missing out on much.
The last woman I lived with was by accident. We worked at the same place,she lived along the route I had to travel,and she didn't like riding the bus. She asked me one day if I would give her a ride home,and I said "Sure!'
We got to her apartment and when I stopped,she asked me if she could go home with me for the night. Since I already knew she was both intelligent and a hard worker,AND because she had red hair and green eyes,I said "You betcha! I can do that!"
The next afternoon when I stopped to drop her off at her apartment,she asked if to wait a minutes,so I did. Out she comes with her suitcase,and tosses it into the back of my truck,and gets into the cab and says "Let's go." I wasn't dating anyone and I liked her,so I just figured,"Why not? It will last until it doesn't,and no hard feelings when she leaves."
One day a couple of months later she informs out out of the blue that "When we get married we won't have sex so often."
Stunned,since I didn't even know we were engaged,I said something clever like "Uhhhhh,say WHAT?"
She repeats what I thought I heard her say the first time,and I tell her something along the line of "Good thing we are not going to get married in that case,huh?",and I definitely remember telling her "Here is a little tech tip you might find useful the next time this sort of thing pops into your mind,You need to do some work to your sales technique because promising a man LESS sex is NOT the way to go about getting one to marry you,and you need to start looking for another place to live."
A week later she was living with another woman we worked with,and a month or so later she was living with another guy we worked with. I have no idea what she said to him or he said to her,but it wasn't long before they were married.
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Golddiggers
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Pyritediggers.
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I would never remarry...been married 46 years in just a few days and he still isn't trained...I don't have time to start over!
In my case it's 47 1/2 years and I'll never be trained!
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In my case it's 47 1/2 years and I'll never be trained!
Just Keep telling yourself that Bigun! I know it helps me make it thu the night!... :whistle:
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Then, if you have decided to tie the knot, keep separate checking accounts and credit cards. You will avoid more hassles that way.
I never understood the idea of being married and believing money was separate for each. Seems like a plan to not be married, eventually.
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I never understood the idea of being married and believing money was separate for each. Seems like a plan to not be married, eventually.
Actually, it isn't separate. Either spouse can write checks on either account, or not. But one uses one and the other the other, for bookkeeping purposes. When times get lean, it can save on trouble not having two people writing checks out of one account. Ditto credit cards. At all times, you know exactly where the money stands.
Considering finances can be a heck of a bone of contention, it's a plan to stay married.
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Actually, it isn't separate. Either spouse can write checks on either account, or not. But one uses one and the other the other, for bookkeeping purposes.
Okay, that I understand and we do ourselves. But it is a single account with several different buckets for tracking and specific saving plans.
My In-Law's money were truly separate and was a major source of contention and arguements for 62 years and created problems even after her death.
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I never understood the idea of being married and believing money was separate for each. Seems like a plan to not be married, eventually.
I agree with @Smokin Joe . In addition, my wife and I had been writing our own checks for our own bills for years before we got married (we were about 50 when we got married) and we were used to it. Since we both have an income, the easiest thing to do was just split up the bills and each handle our agreed responsibilities. That way, nothing gets paid twice and nothing falls through the cracks. And we both have signing authority on each others' accounts.
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I never understood the idea of being married and believing money was separate for each. Seems like a plan to not be married, eventually.
My wife and I have separate checking and saving accounts and credit cards. We both make about the same money. One month she pays all the bills, the next month I do.
We were married later in life mid 30's..works for us. We both prefer it that way.
PS we can sign each others checks.
@thackney
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I have a lot of single female friends and they generally fall into two categories; 30 somethings that are still trying to date like they did in college, choosing the guy with the jacked up truck and Ed Hardy shirt who goes clubbing every night. The problem is that doesn't translate well to an adult and they always are complaining about crappy guys.
The other category is the 40 something professional set who are type a personalities and content with their life. Most of them are real catches (hot, smart, wealthy, not crazy), but don't have time for dating games.
Sadly I can't find any of my bros to set up with any of them.
*raises hand*
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*raises hand*
Aren't you around the Dallas area?
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Aren't you around the Dallas area?
I was half-kidding. Although I suppose, if there are any interested in long-distance relationships, I suppose I'd consider it. It's not like I'm surrounded by eligible bachelorettes where I'm at here in upstate NY.
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We are bashing the women here about not being catches but today's men are not anything to drool over.
Any woman or man who does not do a criminal, marriage record and financial background check on their latest squeeze is a fool. $25 internet anonymous background check is cheap insurance before things get hot and heavy.
Heck, a friend of mine waited too long to do a Google search. Would have saved her the heartbreak of finding the news stories of him being wanted for felony domestic assault with a deadly weapon, etc.
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Heck, a friend of mine waited too long to do a Google search. Would have saved her the heartbreak of finding the news stories of him being wanted for felony domestic assault with a deadly weapon, etc.
Good grief. I have (had) a friend that's in the same boat; however, she insists on continuing the relationship!
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I refuse to be dominated by anyone at anytime and in any place...
Then you don't know what the hell fun is....
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Then you don't know what the hell fun is....
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Are we sure that's not a dude?
Speaking of turnoffs....
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I'm not exaggerating or lied what I said. It's true.
When I was 17 back in the late 70's I worked at my uncles gas station. I was playing 2 sports in HS and pumping iron and wore tight jeans and was a damn good looking kid for 17.
You would not believe what women would say or do. The first week I worked there was a woman in her late 30 or early 40's who said after I pumper her gas and went up to her window for payment "How about a kiss?" And that was mild. I was offered straight out sex numerous times by women 30, 40, 50 and 60+ years old.
This trend you see of older women having sex with men <18 is nothing new. The only difference today is cell phones, photos and text messages are hanging these women.
Trust me when I say this..just because you may have never done these things many many many other women have. it's not Boys will be boys but girls will be girls.
@RAT Patrol
It's probably off-topic for this board...but, what the hey.
What this proves, is the reality of age-old patters of human pairing. Old/young. Young/old.
Young men are sex machines. They'd screw the crack of Dawn. A few wrinkles and cellulite and even stretchmarks...isn't enough to dissuade.
It's The Graduate. And I've seen the truth of that, over and over. When I was a kid working on a golf course, one of the preppie college sophmores was taken, I mean OBSESSED, with a woman working in the front office of the resort which owned the course. This was a woman 32 years old, with a ten-year-old son.
I myself later had a similar situation...a woman about twelve years older than I, separated from her husband, two kids...threw herself my way. I don't know if it's to my shame or my credit, but I didn't bite the bait.
Young boys are like that. They're driven; and older women, who are past their fear and are in fact feeling the fear of unsatisfied LUST...they match, mostly.
Older men...and young females. Another natural match. With a middle-aged man, the fires are banked somewhat. The newness is off. Control has been learned. So has the needs of a partner.
Just the thing for a young woman afraid of the stories of bleeding, pain and pregnancy. And of two-pump chumps who finish off before even getting started.
There was a time when this was, if not sanctioned, at least recognized. But these days women are told to get with other women; and old men are just castigated and rejected. And young males? Gelded psychologically, if not actually...a generation of Pajama BoyZ, taught how much more wonderful is homosexual sodomy, and to be ashamed of desiring to pair off with a female...a REAL female, not a female-for-a-day with a bigger penis than they have...
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Then you don't know what the hell fun is....
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That just screams get my "Hello Kitty" Ball Gag!
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Then you don't know what the hell fun is....
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But can she make a sammich?
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Then you don't know what the hell fun is....
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@Frank Cannon
Never said I couldn't "play pretend" under the right circumstances.
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Not all feminist are bad. My wife is 60's and 70's 2nd wave feminist-equal pay, right to vote kinda gal. She is pro choice and has no problem with gay rights but is conservative to the core everywhere else, small gov't, pro 2nd amend, close the borders, strong military, low taxes, wants major tort reform etc etc.
There are many conservative women like her...women who look upon themselves as conservatives rather than liberals even though they are pro choice.
My wife rarely brings up politics-does not interest her..she has her horses that is her life.
@Weird Tolkienish Figure
I pretty much converted my wife into supporting conservative pols, but you have a good point...expecting your significant other to agree with you on every issue is probably impossible.
When I started going with her she was a regular Democrat voter. Now she rabidly dislikes most Dem pols. You should see her go off on Hillary. I usually don't hear that kind of language out of her.
My wife is still pro choice on abortion but against partial birth abortion. I don't try to argue with her about it, she's stubborn as a mule.
But the fact is I have her voting for pols who are almost all entirely pro-life.
At any rate, she balances out my many faults ..........(which I won't list here...would take too much time).