You're not going to like this post.
Sell the place in Kentucky. Move elsewhere -- how about East Tennessee?
Get out of that town, to somewhere else for a "fresh start".
DO NOT provide a forwarding address to the daughter.
Do not contact her again.
Write her OUT of your life (and your will, if you have one). Bad seed.
Remember, if she knows how to find you -- the ex-con does, as well.
Of course, this probably means losing track of the grandkids. So be it.
But you can put THEM in the will (instead of her).
I told you that you weren't going to like this post.