I agree that the last few wars, Korea to some extent, Vietnam, Afghanistan, and Iraq to the full extent, have been 'pretend' wars. Meaning, these were wars fought without a defined 'end goal'. If there is no definition of what 'victory' is, then how can victory ever be achieved?
Soldiers were routinely punished for being what the bureaucrats defined as 'overly aggressive' (translation: they took the war seriously). Soldiers were endlessly lectured that the war is not about killing the enemy, it is about 'winning hearts and minds' (translation: to make them 'like' us).
The scariest part of this is that the American military is now trained to fight only in pretend wars. That is all they know. So when a real, actual, kill or be killed, no holds barred war breaks out with China, which I believe is coming, the American military will be unprepared. Especially if we have far-Left activists like Milley, and so many more just like him all over D.C., running it. When China acts militarily on a global scale, the very first thing the current 'leaders' controlling the military will do, is to try to figure out how much, and which allies America has to give up to them to "make Peace".