People get sick of family after about 4 hours during holidays, report claims

[Cyber Liberty]

What the h3ll was corbes think?   

Sometimes @corbe  blows our minds just for sport.   

[truth_seeker]

Does anybody else recognise, that many/most activities are "time limited?"

Learning classes take breaks at 45 min to one hour usually.

Most business meetings are scheduled, usually for much less time than 4 hours.

In Fact, it is inefficient government activity which comes to mind, like four hour hearings.

Accountable to nobody. Cost not an issue.

In the case of those hearings, and relatives, often nobody really knows or likes each other.

You remember the feeling ending the last get together, when you couldn't wait to get it over.

Nothing focuses the minds, like a commission check, and nothing drags a meeting on, like getting paid to attend. Resultg be damned

[roamer_1]

I don't get all y'all.

I was raised with the idea that you get to pick your friends, but you don't get to pick your kin.

Your kin are there your whole life long whether you like em or not, and that teaches humbleness, humility, and neighborly ways. Deference is never necessary otherwise. A friend pisses you off, you can cut him off, so the commitment is always fleeting. Family is another thing. A thing bigger than yourself.

In every case, my family has been alongside of me, no matter what. In every case, aid was forthcoming, wisdom was meted out, and even-handed justice administered. How folks get by without kin is entirely beyond me.

[240B]

In every case, my family has been alongside of me, no matter what. In every case, aid was forthcoming, wisdom was meted out, and even-handed justice administered. How folks get by without kin is entirely beyond me.

In every case, my family has sought to take advantage of me, swindle me, or interfere with my marriage and my life out of spite.
My family is toxic to the point that now, I don't involve them or even tell them about anything going on in my life.
Every time I have opened up to my family and invited them into my life, they have used the opportunity to either take advantage of me or to sabotage me. My sister and her retarded husband owe me $5000 right now, which I will never see.
My family are pariahs in their communities, and for good reason. I keep them as far away from me as possible.

Good Luck and Good Tidings to everyone with a nice family. But my family is far from 'nice'. They are a real POS.

[XenaLee]

I don't get all y'all.

I was raised with the idea that you get to pick your friends, but you don't get to pick your kin.

Your kin are there your whole life long whether you like em or not, and that teaches humbleness, humility, and neighborly ways. Deference is never necessary otherwise. A friend pisses you off, you can cut him off, so the commitment is always fleeting. Family is another thing. A thing bigger than yourself.

In every case, my family has been alongside of me, no matter what. In every case, aid was forthcoming, wisdom was meted out, and even-handed justice administered. How folks get by without kin is entirely beyond me.

Oh FFS.   Are you kidding me???   You, who have presented yourself as something of a loner, up in a cabin somewhere in the mountains/woods.... away from "people".... are now positing that you're a "family" kinda guy?   I'm confused.   

Anyway.... you need to grip the reality that all families are not alike and are not, therefore, close.   Many times for very good reasons (@holes).  That stuff you see on teevee... those dysfunctional family scenarios.... most were scripted and taken from "real life"....lol.   And I've seen/witnessed/experienced a few of those scenarious in my life.... first hand, but
mostly from my closest friends' tails of their ""scenarios"" involving family and holidays. 

If you have a great, close family you are blessed.   Count those blessings and be grateful!   

[XenaLee]

In every case, my family has sought to take advantage of me, swindle me, or interfere with my marriage and my life out of spite.
My family is toxic to the point that now, I don't involve them or even tell them about anything going on in my life.
Every time I have opened up to my family and invited them into my life, they have used the opportunity to either take advantage of me or to sabotage me. My sister and her retarded husband owe me $5000 right now, which I will never see.
My family are pariahs in their communities, and for good reason. I keep them as far away from me as possible.

Good Luck and Good Tidings to everyone with a nice family. But my family is far from 'nice'. They are a real POS.

My family is nice enough.... but I've had friends that were not so lucky.   

[libertybele]

In every case, my family has sought to take advantage of me, swindle me, or interfere with my marriage and my life out of spite.
My family is toxic to the point that now, I don't involve them or even tell them about anything going on in my life.
Every time I have opened up to my family and invited them into my life, they have used the opportunity to either take advantage of me or to sabotage me. My sister and her retarded husband owe me $5000 right now, which I will never see.
My family are pariahs in their communities, and for good reason. I keep them as far away from me as possible.

Good Luck and Good Tidings to everyone with a nice family. But my family is far from 'nice'. They are a real POS.

Betrayal from family is the worse.  I completely understand.

[GrouchoTex]

I wouldn't agree with the article, that I am sick of family after 4 hours, but stuck in a small house with the kids and grand-kids, I do get worn out.
Things out in open spaces, ball parks, camping, etc. tend to be a lot more relaxing to me than Thanksgiving.
It's worth it, though.

[Cyber Liberty]

In every case, my family has sought to take advantage of me, swindle me, or interfere with my marriage and my life out of spite.
My family is toxic to the point that now, I don't involve them or even tell them about anything going on in my life.
Every time I have opened up to my family and invited them into my life, they have used the opportunity to either take advantage of me or to sabotage me. My sister and her retarded husband owe me $5000 right now, which I will never see.
My family are pariahs in their communities, and for good reason. I keep them as far away from me as possible.

Good Luck and Good Tidings to everyone with a nice family. But my family is far from 'nice'. They are a real POS.

"I feel your pain."  It was sad when I found out my parents were bilking me.  I expect it from my sister and oldest brother but not them.  Now, my second oldest bother and I are on the outs.  Meh.

[libertybele]

"I feel your pain."  It was sad when I found out my parents were bilking me.  I expect it from my sister and oldest brother but not them.  Now, my second oldest bother and I are on the outs.  Meh.

Don't feel bad ... my mother has done some pretty messed up things over the years ... I finally gave up ... thought all her crap was behind me and she just recently zinged me another one.  Then she wonders why we have nothing to do with her. I'll probably rot in hel7 for not honoring my mother....

[libertybele]

I have to chuckle in thinking that with all the 'family' turmoil that most in here seem to have ... too bad we all can't get together share a few drinks, eat some turkey with all the trimmings and share some pumpkin pie! It would be an experience like no other!    

 

[240B]

Don't feel bad ... my mother has done some pretty messed up things over the years ... I finally gave up ... thought all her crap was behind me and she just recently zinged me another one.  Then she wonders why we have nothing to do with her. I'll probably rot in hel7 for not honoring my mother....

My mother had this 'thing', where she would try to buddy-up with my girlfriend, later my wife, to be BFF with them against me, for some reason I will never understand? She would confide with my partner intimate (secret) details, sometimes just outright lies, from my childhood and my past as a way of bonding with them. She cost me a lot of relationships. It didn't take me long to stop telling her anything about my personal life and especially about any girls I happen to be involved with. This started very young.

At my 15th birthday party, my mother joined the party, which is fine. But she did not join as a 'mother', she was acting like she was just another kid in the gang. Like she was 15 again. Was afraid she would try to make-out with some of my classmates. I've never been so embarrassed.

My siblings view me as an ATM machine. All they want is money.

Nah. Not for me. Haven't been close enough with my family for them to do me damage in 20 years. And I do not miss it in the least.

[corbe]

I have to chuckle in thinking that with all the 'family' turmoil that most in here seem to have ... too bad we all can't get together share a few drinks, eat some turkey with all the trimmings and share some pumpkin pie! It would be an experience like no other!    

 

   It would be a great opportunity to disappear a couple of problematic Briefers, IMHO

[LadyLiberty]

Time for a bit of Paul Thorn:


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[Applewood]

I have to chuckle in thinking that with all the 'family' turmoil that most in here seem to have ... too bad we all can't get together share a few drinks, eat some turkey with all the trimmings and share some pumpkin pie! It would be an experience like no other!    

 

We probably would kill each other. 

[libertybele]

My mother had this 'thing', where she would try to buddy-up with my girlfriend, later my wife, to be BFF with them against me, for some reason I will never understand? She would confide with my partner intimate (secret) details, sometimes just outright lies, from my childhood and my past as a way of bonding with them. She cost me a lot of relationships. It didn't take me long to stop telling her anything about my personal life and especially about any girls I happen to be involved with. This started very young.

At my 15th birthday party, my mother joined the party, which is fine. But she did not join as a 'mother', she was acting like she was just another kid in the gang. Like she was 15 again. Was afraid she would try to make-out with some of my classmates. I've never been so embarrassed.

My siblings view me as an ATM machine. All they want is money.

Nah. Not for me. Haven't been close enough with my family for them to do me damage in 20 years. And I do not miss it in the least.

Wow...your mother sounds like mine. She used to answer the phone and pretend she was me and talk to my friends to find out info.  She invited my ex-boyfriend over to the house after my husband and I married while we were getting ready for our honeymoon ...as time has gone on the things she does get even more twisted and downright hurtful. 

All I can think of is perhaps jealousy plays a role.  Who knows.  I tried distancing myself, but she still manages to 'involve' herself in people that I associate with, lies, manipulates and creates havoc. It still hasn't ended.

[Cyber Liberty]

   It would be a great opportunity to disappear a couple of problematic Briefers, IMHO

 

I have some TEA Party friends coming by for T-Day dinner.  Folks that live in my neighborhood. 

[240B]

Wow...your mother sounds like mine. She used to answer the phone and pretend she was me and talk to my friends to find out info.  She invited my ex-boyfriend over to the house after my husband and I married while we were getting ready for our honeymoon ...as time has gone on the things she does get even more twisted and downright hurtful. 

All I can think of is perhaps jealousy plays a role.  Who knows.  I tried distancing myself, but she still manages to 'involve' herself in people that I associate with, lies, manipulates and creates havoc. It still hasn't ended.

Yep. That's it. That is exactly right.
With my mother it was about jealousy of youth. She was actually jealous of all her children simply for being young. (weird)
But it was also loneliness. My mother (obviously) had a difficult time making friends and forming relationships. So.....she decided to basically interpose herself in my friendships and relationships. As if she wanted to 'take them over' and convert them to being 'her' friends instead of mine. So she would badmouth me, while courting them. Bizarre. Starting at age 19, I never let her anywhere near anyone that I was friends with, because I knew what was going to happen.

Unfortunately, it was necessary for her to meet my wife and her parents, because they demanded it. It was the disaster I knew it would be.

But, I hold no bitterness. It is all behind me now. So, the past is the past and now all is right with the world. Whatever...
The point is, I will never put myself in that situation again. I have finally learned my lesson.

[XenaLee]

   It would be a great opportunity to disappear a couple of problematic Briefers, IMHO

Damn, corbe.... who here do you hate enough to want to "dissappear" them???

[corbe]

Damn, corbe.... who here do you hate enough to want to "dissappear" them???

   
 

   Not going there @XenaLee (incidentally, you're not one of them)   

[libertybele]

Damn, corbe.... who here do you hate enough to want to "dissappear" them???

Ya ... I was kind of wondering the same thing.  Who's on corbe's hit list? Definitely don't want to get on the wrong side! 

[XenaLee]

   
 

   Not going there @XenaLee (incidentally, you're not one of them)   

Well that's..... really good news (for you).   I'm kinda "connected".   

[XenaLee]

Ya ... I was kind of wondering the same thing.  Who's on corbe's hit list? Definitely don't want to get on the wrong side! 

Lololol.   Methinks that corbe is taking this place much too seriously.   

[corbe]

   I Love my Family and spend a considerable amount of time with them each year.  I guess my biggest beef with them since they quit ragging me about the length of my hair, is their in my face Trumpism and oh yea, they won't allow me to bring any of my crazy Girlfriends to any Family Functions.  It certainly helps that they are usually held on a 5 acre spread with a stock pond out back with a couple of dogs, so I can disappear for a majority of the time.  This year it should be raining so it will be more difficult, but this too shall pass.

[XenaLee]

   I Love my Family and spend a considerable amount of time with them each year.  I guess my biggest beef with them since they quit ragging me about the length of my hair, is their in my face Trumpism and oh yea, they won't allow me to bring any of my crazy Girlfriends to any Family Functions.  It certainly helps that they are usually held on a 5 acre spread with a stock pond out back with a couple of dogs, so I can disappear for a majority of the time.  This year it should be raining so it will be more difficult, but this too shall pass.

Are your crazy girlfriends leftie Trump-haters?   If so, I don't blame your family one bit.   Who needs the drama?