No thanks to the weak Repukes, Trump doesn't have the upper hand here.
But still, the SOTU is not the "Hill To Die On."
No, it isn't. The wall is.
The SOTU could be done in writing, but Trump just has to have his precious speech before Congress, which is why he gave Pelosi veto power over it. We now know a speech before Congress is more important to him than fulfilling his promise to build a barrier.
Consider your lips read, Mr. One-Term President.