My ex-wife was like that. She always thought that she was 'in charge'. She firmly believed that she knew better, in any situation. I was making a lot of money and she did not work at the time. But that didn't matter. She was the boss, in her own mind. I put up with it, because I didn't really care about who the 'boss' was.
One of the reasons I had to divorce her is that she kept getting me in trouble. She was getting involved with people that I by myself would never get close to. Used car dealership owner, a guy that had a hinky strip mall. And it was easy to see that they were using her. And by using her, they were using me, which was the only reason they ever talked to her to begin with. Eventually they both had her doing shady deals for them, and were paying her nothing. It was nuts.
I opened two businesses while with her. In both cases she bull horned into both of them and took them over. Then she started gaslighting about how the business was her idea all along. And how I was 'getting in her way'. Crazy. I know. My idea. My money. My everything. But somehow it was 'her' business? Everything I tried to do she would shoehorn her way in and try to 'take over'. Because she really believed that she knew better, about everything. And the worst part is, she didn't. If she was right, I could forgive her. But she was not. She was consistently wrong about everything. Not that this mattered to her.
Eventually we divorced, of course. But it was amazing to me how utterly confident she was in her acumen and ability, when it really was just not there. It was a fantasy. This is what the feminist Democrats remind me of, every time.