I never had the opportunity to be a parent, but certainly hope that parents and those who soon will become parents will wake up to the importance of teaching children self-reliance. My mother put us on the trolley to go downtown to wander around Pittsburgh (first to piano lessons, then over to the planetarium for science classes, then back to the trolley stop for the return trip to the suburbs) without a worry. Thank goodness I had at least that much freedom!
When I
was a kid in and around New York, New York was still a fun place to be. Let a ten- or eleven-year-old kid learn the map of the city
subways and New York whole was your playground. The Museum of Natural History, Chinatown, Shea Stadium, the Metropolitan Museum of Art,
the main New York Public Library, Central Park, and Record World . . . just for openers.
My enablers were also my maternal grandparents; I
loved hopping the Long Island Rail Road to spend weekends or school breaks with them.
Take that train to Penn Station, then walk across the station under the street and catch the D train to the north Bronx. Grandma would pull me
aside after breakfast and hand me a five spot and whisper, "Don't tell Grandpa!" Five minutes later, Grandpa would pull me aside near the bedroom
and hand me a five spot and whisper, "Don't tell Grandma!" Ten bucks in a kid's pocket in 1966-68 was like putting him on Millionaire Acres---you
could have a nice lunch (mine was a kosher hot dog, mustard and sauerkraut, and a can of celery soda from an old-fashioned corner hot dog stand),
have enough for several subway trips, a ball game at Shea Stadium, a little record shopping, maybe a jaunt to Coney Island and a couple of rides
down there, and when you got back you might
still have a couple of bucks in your pocket. (Even more fun: if I wanted to hit Shea Stadium,
Grandpa would go with me---he
loved watching Met games from behind the plate in the mezzanine section, which was only $2.50 a seat in
those years.)
Those were the days.