Having gone through seeing both of my parents die after long periods in an ICU, on life support on ventilators, and long after it was obvious to both the doctors and our family they were dying and couldn’t be saved and finally removed from that life support, if given a choice to end it or perhaps hasten the end of the suffering just a bit, I’d want that the option of having that choice.
I’m pretty sure that in my father’s case, after 8 weeks on a ventilator and at the end of those 8 weeks and with no hope of recovery, that he was given morphine, enough to ease any of his pain and suffering when we had removed from life support and perhaps a bit more than just that, and so as to not prolong his inevitable death longer than necessary and I and my brother were fine with that.
I understand the slippery slope argument and that concerns me as well, But I’ve also seen the dark and cruel side of keeping someone alive for the sake of keeping them “aliveâ€.
I saw that with my MIL. She was very sickly for the last 10 years of her life and then terminally ill with cancer and refused to eat anymore and while she could still speak, all she said to me and her son was that she was “ready to and wanted go home†yet against her and my husband’s wishes because her daughter who never bothered to visit her before she became so ill or after, even once, after she was placed in a nursing home objected to her end of life wishes, she was placed on feeding tube. She suffered a heart attack and despite the Do Not Resuscitate Order, was revived. But then she spent the next year of her life, if you could call it “life†unconscious, unresponsive and curled up in a fetal position, often having bedsores and several infections until she suffered a massive and fatal stroke.
When we had her body transferred to the funeral home, the funeral director called my husband to inform him that because of his mother’s prolonged vegetative state and her having been curled up in a fetal position for so long, that in order to lay her in a coffin, he’d have to literally break some of her bones so he could lay her out.
There is nothing live affirming IMO in that sort of death.