I don't think many of them choose their 'orientation.' I think that most of them have psychological scars from dysfunctional homes, or abusive or absent fathers that mess them up and keep them from normality. I also believe there are those who actually decide on the decadent lifestyle that most homosexuals lead.
But what they all DO choose is their behavior. As in any other sin, the choice to behave badly is avoidable.
My wife and I know 4 gay men very well. Blood cousins, marriage related or close friends.
Non were ever abused and came from model homes, religious homes with loving parents
My wife's cousin came over to her house every Sunday back in the day when they were kids and she new he was "different" back then.
My SIL brother is gay and also came from model home..loving dad etc.Dad and son are real close to this day.
My wife told me 10 years ago my SIL son(my nephew) is gay at age 10 . He acted 100% the same way as her cousin did at that age. You just know.
We just spent some time with them recently and he is now 20 and we are both 100% percent convinced he is gay but just has not come out yet.
My cousin I thought was gay. During family get togethers he would bake cookies and such while all of us boys watched football. He would sew clothes etc He did get married which surprised me but it ended in divorce 7-8 years later and he never remarried. My wife and I both think he is gay but never came out because he did not want to hurt his deeply religious parents
I am 100% convinced it is something that happens in the womb during gestation for most gays. Not to say some are abused or some just want that lifestyle. I beleive some women are born gay but many are form abused relationships.
@musiclady