@Frank Cannon
Frank,what she is mad about is that she is ALMOST white. I call it the "Ah kooda bin a contenda!" mindset. She thinks that if the 1/4 black part of her could be replaced with another 1/4 white,that the world would be at her feet.
She isn't white,though. She is a little over 1/4 black,and in HER mind that makes her a bleep,and she's mad about it and wants you to know it's YOUR fault.
This is the evil of identity politics. It imposes on those who adopt its chains the idea that they are defined by some aspect of their person that they likely can't change and couldn't influence. Instead of just being a person, and building her identity on that, she's busily preoccupied with who she isn't. She will never grow as an individual who just happens being 1/4 black as long as her genetics become and remain her raison d'etre.
Yep. She coulda been a contenda.
She still can be a 'contender' if she will just grow up.
You are the sum of your deeds, your beliefs, your actions' effects on those about you.
I presume she's a city girl. If she could shed her own self-hatred and preoccupation, she should move some place where people are more concerned with the person you are and what you can do than who your grand parents were. If she's capable, it would open her eyes to a different world, and possibly even contentment.