This is the most absurd part of the whole thing. Some States base the amount of child support on what they call the 'family income' of the divorced spouse. When they are single, the family income is only their one salary. However, should they remarry, then the income and assets of the new spouse would be included in, family income, and the amount of child support would be adjusted accordingly. Think about it.
If I remarry, my new wife could wind up paying child support to my ex-wife. In what universe does this make any sense? Why would I ever remarry under these circumstances, and what woman would ever agree to marry me?
So, when the child support judgement was issued, several other things came with it, from this point on.
You will report all events that happen in your life directly to us.
You will never be allowed to be successful, because the more you make, the more we take, to keep you at a certain level of income. If you get a raise, we need to know about it.
You will never remarry, and if you do, we will punish you, and her.
That's life in modern America. That is why I always warn people about to get married to make sure they know what they are doing. I'm not saying to not get married. I'm only saying, be very careful. It is a serious thing, not to be taken lightly.
There is a presumption in the system that the male is the evildoer, the philanderer, the unfaithful and/or abusive person in the former relationship. A friend had his children taken away by the court after a private school handed him back his tuition deposit check (it was good) on the first day of school, and put the children in the custody of his meth addicted ex wife. You know where the child support money went. The kids grew up to be junkies as well.
I have rarely seen intervention which was actually needed which went well for any of the parties involved, and have seen intervention by the courts which was not needed, but based on the prevarication and carefully worded hype of social workers which went badly for all the parties involved. Even the 'charges' or complaints are vaguely worded to craft an image of someone who is terrible.
I have heard a lot of people gripe about the system.
I know of someone else who had a child removed from the home because the local school superintendent's office lost the paperwork for the child's home schooling, and they were deemed to be 'educationally neglectful' (no report of truancy had been filed, so I question when the paperwork got 'lost'). The result was that the child was placed in foster care, and the parents will be carried on a list of people who "neglect or abuse" (no differentiation) their children for ten years, which will keep them from getting a job working with kids, period. So they will be on the same list with people who chain their kids in closets or shove their hands in boiling water because someone else "lost" a piece of paper.
