FWIW,
The wife says hubby is home, now . . . his sister was there . . . their relationship is also extremely troubled. No big surprise there.
Wife realizes at purportedly deeper, more broad levels that hubby has not changed and will not change even from the near death experience--which--in typical fashion, he blames on the wife.
Therefore what . . as always . . . remains to be seen.
Thanks for the caring and the prayers. These, after all, are people . . . conflicted, troubled, mangled, people . . . with more pains {self--and other--inflicted} than one individual 'ought' to have to deal with, imho. Yet, we can trace it all the way back to Adam. Doesn't solve it.
Changed experience requires changed behavior . . . and all of us have learned in this or that area how difficult that can be--whether it's resisting another piece of cake, another smoke, another 3 hours at the office, another $1,000, another perverse romp in the hay or whatever.
But for some, the mangled mess they've always lived in from childhood to present has never been free of pain and suffering and tortured as well as torturing relationships. I hate seeing such suffering.
Yet, I can only do what I can do. And I certainly can't save the world, sometimes even doing better myself is a challenge.