That's my issue. I'm pretty sure that one of my corpsmen was gay, but he was a good corpsman and didn't advertise it, so nobody cared. Kind of like having a girl as a nurse anyway. The problem is that demonstrating that it was not an issue when guys were not permitted to be "out" doesn't mean squat when you're comparing it to what happens if it can be flaunted.
I don't think any of us are completely sane, but functional people can do their jobs in spite of their quirks.
Here's the thing -- in units/branches where it was not an issue, nobody made an issue about it. But there's a big difference between having someone openly gay as a programmer in an office in Omaha, and having an openly gay infantryman at Camp Lejuene. The group dynamics, ethics, and everything else are just completely different.
The problem is they won't allow you to
NOT make an issue of it. They *WANT* to make an issue of it. They will not be happy until they have pushed their gayness in your face and forced you to say it's wonderful. They are not content to leave it alone, they go out of their way to aggressively challenge other people in regards to their beliefs.
That case in Kentucky where the clerk went to jail. Those guys didn't even live in Kentucky, they just went there because they heard she wasn't going to issue any gay "marriage" certificates.
In all these cases we have been seeing, they deliberately seek out people who they expect will not condone their behavior, and then they try to *FORCE* them to celebrate "gayness".
I have postulated many years ago that they are desperate to convince others that their condition is normal because they need reassurance about their own deep seated doubts. Nobody wants to believe they are sick and an outcast, and so they constantly need assurances that there is nothing wrong with them.
It never works, and eventually many of them commit suicide. Even in Sweden, where they have bent over frontwards and backwards trying to make homosexuals feel good about themselves, their suicide rate is still far higher than heterosexuals.
They've got issues. Lots of issues.