Did you support the Federal DoMA?
IMHO, the defense of marriage act was a direct result of years of social engineering at the federal and state level.
For example, God created the IRS, and thus created exemptions to reward people for acceptable behavior (marriage, kids, houses, RV's, Boats, etc) .
The states followed suite and enhanced the engineering (death benefits, hospital visitation, reward for kids, etc).
Those that were not married were not only denied "benefits" awarded to married and in fact, are actually penalized and put less of a strain on the infrastructure (schools, etc). Of course this is all changing now with more single parents.
So I believe if it were not for all of the "rewards" for good behavior, we would likely not even have this conversation.
Taking money from one "class" and giving it to another, sound familiar?
But the politicians need a way to buy votes with our money so it is unlikely this will change.