Moms, you need to be with your children more, author Erica Komisar says

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A remarkably sane article.

Moms, you’re supposed to be with your babies, says licensed social worker and author Erica Komisar. Her new book, “Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters,” has some hard truths that many working moms won’t want to hear.

Komisar goes through the science of why moms are the best caretakers for their children, not another relative, not a nanny and definitely not a daycare worker. And not just any mom. Not a mom on her cellphone, not a mom talking to another mom, not a mom who is checked out. Children need a mom that is really present, really tuned into her children.

That feeling of guilt that her book might induce in you, that’s a good thing, Komisar says. “Guilt is a signal feeling,” she says. It’s a signal to explore that feeling — that conflict to discover what you know is best for your child.

“Moms are under stress,” she says, and that stress is passed along to their children. Komisar points to natural reactions that happen when moms and their babies are separated. The hormone cortisol is released...

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