Strong Women Should NEVER Do These Things For a Man — or Anyone Else

[Machiavelli]

Nicole Yi
PopSugar
April 20, 2017

...Ladies, don't ever do the following five things for a man — or for anyone.

1. Change your appearance...

2. Compromise your passions...

3. Wait for his approval...

4. Cancel already-set plans...

5. Let him change who you are...

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This women, Nicole Yi, the author of this article, is a feminist lunatic.

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Dennis Prager discussed this article today:

This could be retitled — How Not to Get Married. Feminism is dedicated to making women unhappy.

[Frank Cannon]

This appears to be written by a know nothing self centered bitch who lives alone.

Nicole Yi
Assistant Editor of Love & Sex and Smart Living
First Post 1 year ago


"I'm the reason men buy a Real Doll."

[ABX]

How about if a strong woman does whatever the hell she wants and not take advice from dumb articles?

[Sanguine]

How about if a strong woman does whatever the hell she wants and not take advice from dumb articles?

 

[jmyrlefuller]

How about if a strong woman does whatever the hell she wants and not take advice from dumb articles?

Like I say whenever I see an article telling me how a "real man" is supposed to act...

"Real men" don't need to take unsolicited advice from random blokes on the Internet telling them how to be a "real man."

The same goes for women as well.

[Cripplecreek]

I've found that women who feel a need to tell everyone who strong they are, seldom are.

[EasyAce]

How about if a strong woman does whatever the hell she wants and not take advice from dumb articles?

Works for strong men, too.

I don't suppose the author ever considered that men and women do things like that for each other.
Though I'd draw the line at changing each other, I'd no sooner let a woman try to change me as
would I try to change her, it'd be disrespectful to both of us.

[jmyrlefuller]

Nicole Yi

This last name gives me a lame excuse to post this video. (And before anyone cries racist, if there were a good pun around the name of any other ethnicity, I'd be using it, too.)


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q6EoRBvdVPQ

[corbe]

   Personally, I wish women in general would spend less time on this tripe and more time reading the hot sex articles in COSMO.

[Free Vulcan]

But I guarantee THAT MAN better jump, snap, and fetch whenever she says so, and better have all his ducks in a row right down the checklist.

Feminists are almost always a one way street of self-righteous hypocrisy and passive/agressive domination.

[mirraflake]

...Ladies, don't ever do the following five things for a man — or for anyone.

1. Change your appearance...

2. Compromise your passions...

3. Wait for his approval...

4. Cancel already-set plans...

5. Let him change who you are...



My wife is fiercely independent and so am I.   I don;t really have a problem with the list though I nor she would ever do something that would hurt each other or get the other offended or mad. . I would be ticked if my wife tried to pull any of those 5 on me.  Would never do any of the 5 on  the list though I did tell her the new haircut the new hairdresser gave her looked like crap and she went back to  the old style.

She told me on our first date she goes to  horse shows all summer and spends a ungodly amount of time and money on her horses  and that would never change and if I had  a problem with that let her her know now as that we be the end of our dating...well I told her I go to car shows all summer and spend a ungodly amount of time and money on my cars so we are even and we both laughed.

[jmyrlefuller]

But I guarantee THAT MAN better jump, snap, and fetch whenever she says so, and better have all his ducks in a row right down the checklist.

Feminists are almost always a one way street of self-righteous hypocrisy and passive/agressive domination.

"I can be late for a date, that's fine, but he'd better be on time." —Shania Twain

[Silver Pines]

I don't think a man or a woman should try to change who the other person is; that's a recipe for disaster. 

But not cancelling plans for a man?  So, what...a woman should make it clear that her friends, etc. come before him? 

As for the appearance thing, for some reason feminists have a deep loathing of women dressing for men or making themselves more attractive for them.

[berdie]

I guess it depends on what point the relationship is.

when dating, no I wouldn't do any of those things. When serious or married...that changes the equation. I wouldn't change who I am...nor should he. But certain concessions happen in a committed relationship.

Like maybe if my husband doesn't like piercings...I shouldn't get my lip pierced.

(like I would EVER do that anyway!!)

[Smokin Joe]

Like I say whenever I see an article telling me how a "real man" is supposed to act...

"Real men" don't need to take unsolicited advice from random blokes on the Internet telling them how to be a "real man."

The same goes for women as well.

I agree. I read those articles for the fun of it. Besides, if people suddenly start acting like they say in the article, you know who is reading that stuff.

Sometimes, though, I just can't get through them. They overload the 'stupid meter' and I have to move on.

Mrs. Joe is a strong woman. Not huge or even heavily muscled, but one of the most resilient people I have ever met. It is a toughness that is soft and gentle, but deep down, she has earned my respect, just knowing some of what she endured before we wed (and putting up with me, too ). She's one to run the river with.

[Polly Ticks]

Though I'd draw the line at changing each other, I'd no sooner let a woman try to change me as
would I try to change her, it'd be disrespectful to both of us.

I got my husband to change his voter registration from Democrat to Republican. 
I have no regrets. 
 

[Free Vulcan]

I got my husband to change his voter registration from Democrat to Republican. 
I have no regrets. 
 

Post of the day, you win the interwebs!

[Gefn]

I think Billy Joel said it best.

"don't go changing to try to please me"

 

(We don't have a piano man emoji)

[240B]

Had a girlfriend like that once. Such a shame.
She was very beautiful women, but she refused to wear any make up or to dress up nice. She thought it was silly. I thought it was hot. Funny thing is, she knew I liked a girly girl, so whenever I saw her putting on makeup in her pajamas at 11pm after a shower, I knew it was going to be a fun night. That was her signal.

[driftdiver]

If you're not willing to change to make your significant other happy then you have a problem.   Of course it depends on the change and some basic personality traits are nearly impossible to change.

but small things?

[Polly Ticks]

I think Billy Joel said it best.

"don't go changing to try to please me"

 

(We don't have a piano man emoji)

@Freya

Here you go:

           

[240B]

If you're not willing to change to make your significant other happy then you have a problem.   Of course it depends on the change and some basic personality traits are nearly impossible to change.

but small things?

Changed my behavior lots of times. In bootcamp, aboard ship, in jail, with a roommate, etc. Anytime you're living with another person/persons, your behavior necessarily has to change.

Not changing is the same as not recognizing that the other person has needs/rights too. It is immature, passive aggressive, nonsense. But I'm sure that no woman would ever be passive aggressive, including the author. Right?

[Gefn]

@Freya

Here you go:

           

Thank you @Polly Ticks

[musiclady]

How about if a strong woman does whatever the hell she wants and not take advice from dumb articles?

Nailed it!

[r9etb]

I think Billy Joel said it best.

"don't go changing to try to please me"

The best that can be said is that you're not responsible for the ear-worm; I had the same thought.  You are, however, responsible for making it worse.