Yes it is funny how the mind plays out all these scenarios in such short fashion. Now I wonder about a previous drum major at my school that was a bright talented young lady at one time. It was rumored that my band director's (PB) friend was a lesbian band director at the neighboring school . One day PB came in to class with a scratched face and it was rumored she gave it to him in a dispute they had with a night out with friends drinking. I wonder if my band director introduced our previous young female drum major to his lesbian friend. She went from being a well rounded fun loving person to somewhat a downtrodden kid that acted like some reclusive Goth kid.
It just makes me wonder, how coordinated are these gay/bi/trans people to helping each other seduce other kids? I am beginning to think it goes deeper than imagined as some have pointed out and unfortunately it begins with good people remaining silent. I wish my parents had talked to me more about just how twisted this world was. Perhaps they never realized it themselves even though there is nothing new under the sun.
'Normalcy bias' isn't just for the "zombie apocalypse" or TEOTWAWKI, it happens all the time. We trust our surroundings to be as we perceive them, even when we don't trust our perceptions and tell ourselves everything is just fine in spite of them.
Parents are especially that way about children, and anyone who is raising a child has to be willing to hang up the rose colored glasses and see when the kid they desperately want to live a Pollyannish life and be the best in class is actually having problems. You want your kids to be kids, as innocent as possible as long as possible, too.
Of course, no child wants to disappoint, especially their parents (unless that is exactly their aim in an act of rebellion), so they often won't want to disrupt the flow of things with 'minor' problems, and by the time they are major, kids often feel lost.
It takes reassurance that come what may, they are your kid, you care, and you want to help if you can or help get help if it is beyond you. You do that for them if they get hurt playing, if they get sick, you do it for that other less obvious injury as well.
Growing up sucks. It can be fun, but it has those moments that make it something few of us would repeat unless we could go back knowing what we know now, and even then... Going back without that would mean learning a lot of hard and painful lessons (more for some than others) all over again. No thanks. It's hard enough to help shepherd another generation through that, and I'm thankful to be a little wiser this time.
As for coordination, from the lesbian predators I have seen (in the bars long ago) there is a definite subculture, and they compare notes. How coordinated the recruiting is, I don't know, except that when one fails another might try a slightly different angle. I suppose in that sense it is little different from other situations where someone is looking to 'get lucky', except the idea of who doing what with who is different, and the basic rules of decency in predation seem to be thrown away. (A guy would have to be a real lowlife to hit on another guy's wife just after they had had a fight, but I watched a lesbian move right in).
