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Stop dressing so tacky for church
« on: April 20, 2014, 08:47:49 AM »

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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #1 on: April 20, 2014, 08:55:11 AM »
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #2 on: April 20, 2014, 09:00:10 AM »
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #3 on: April 20, 2014, 10:13:11 AM »
The religious love to judge, while specifically told not to. 
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #4 on: April 20, 2014, 10:36:15 AM »
The religious love to judge, while specifically told not to.

There is a line I used once:

"Judge not, lest you be judged. God is busy so he sent me."  :tongue2:

People love to judge. Religious, irreligious, anti-religious. They all do it.

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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #5 on: April 20, 2014, 01:27:28 PM »
The only dress I find inappropriate is that which is immodest.

Anything else is fine, as per Scriptural command.

In our church, we go from suits and ties to jean shorts and T's, and that's just fine with me, because we are all brothers and sisters in Christ, and are there to worship HIM.
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #6 on: April 20, 2014, 02:08:06 PM »
If the weather is particularly hot on a Sunday morning, sometimes I have no choice but to wear a Hawaiian shirt, shorts and sandals. Church is a mile away and I typically have to walk there.

I have otherwise typically followed "smart casual" or "business casual" for church functions. Blue jeans (if well-maintained) or khakis and a button-down shirt with a modest pattern typically suffices. I will dress somewhat more formal for occasions such as Good Friday (when I wear all-black and long sleeves). I rarely ever wear a tie (my neck is far too wide to button most dress shirts at the top; hence, why I frequently wear Hawaiian shirts).

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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #7 on: April 20, 2014, 02:12:58 PM »
I'm old enough to remember when the old Italian, Polish or Irish ladies wore head dresses and dresses to the floor!
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #8 on: April 20, 2014, 02:32:13 PM »
The Lord judges what is in, not what is on your skin.
Indeed, but what is on the skin is often indicative of what is within.

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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #9 on: April 20, 2014, 03:03:44 PM »
I'm old enough to remember when the old Italian, Polish or Irish ladies wore head dresses and dresses to the floor!
Only one little girl at church this morning had an Easter bonnet. Some of us were remembering when all of us girls - and the women, too - had new hats for Easter morning. (That's something I don't miss).
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #10 on: April 20, 2014, 06:41:47 PM »
Only one little girl at church this morning had an Easter bonnet. Some of us were remembering when all of us girls - and the women, too - had new hats for Easter morning. (That's something I don't miss).

And don't forget the white gloves and patent leather Mary Janes to go with our dresses and bonnets.

Nope.  Don't miss those days a bit!   ^-^
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #11 on: April 20, 2014, 07:43:26 PM »
Had this conversation nearly 50 years ago   The response was that they would rather have attendance at Church and not focus on the clothing.

Thought it showed a lack of respect then and I still have the same impression.

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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #12 on: April 20, 2014, 08:00:33 PM »
We had two little ones at evening Mass today, dressed to the 9s. Every single parishioner complemented them - including a guy in stained tracksuit bottoms and a ripped T shirt.
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #13 on: April 26, 2014, 09:52:32 AM »
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #14 on: April 26, 2014, 10:30:52 AM »
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #15 on: April 26, 2014, 10:39:48 AM »
People are dressing tacky for everything, or haven't you noticed?
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #16 on: April 26, 2014, 10:42:49 AM »
The Protestant demoninations are hollow.
Not sure what your comment means.
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #17 on: April 26, 2014, 12:15:41 PM »
People are dressing tacky for everything, or haven't you noticed?

True enough.

I'll never forget going back to a wonderful Boston restaurant after a decade or so.  It had had a dress code when my husband and I went there, so when we took our kids, we made them dress up.

I was horrified to see people there in shorts, crummy looking T-shirts and ball caps.  And there we were with our four young kids, looking spiffy enough to go to a well-dressed church.

It's a sign of something in our culture, but I'm not sure what...........
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #18 on: April 26, 2014, 12:16:49 PM »
Not sure what your comment means.

It's an incorrect comment, if you're in a Christ-centered church...... of which there are plenty.

Nothing "hollow" about the Gospel.
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #19 on: April 26, 2014, 12:27:05 PM »
It's an incorrect comment, if you're in a Christ-centered church...... of which there are plenty.

Nothing "hollow" about the Gospel.

That is the big thing. There are plenty of churches that seem to be more style over substance. It's not just the Protestant churches either - I've been in Catholic churches where the congregation were more interested in each others hats than Mass.
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #20 on: April 26, 2014, 12:37:48 PM »
That is the big thing. There are plenty of churches that seem to be more style over substance. It's not just the Protestant churches either - I've been in Catholic churches where the congregation were more interested in each others hats than Mass.

It's not just the "big" thing................it's the "only" thing.  :laugh:
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #21 on: April 26, 2014, 12:55:41 PM »
It's not just the "big" thing................it's the "only" thing.  :laugh:

Yep!  :laugh:

Our priest, like most good pastors I've seen, sets the tone. He says you are there to celebrate our Lord. You can do that wearing anything or nothing. No one has taken him up on the "nothing" bit yet, though some of the, shall we say, working girls get a bit close sometimes!!!  :laugh:

Most of our congregation are tradespeople. It's not uncommon to see a well dressed woman and neatly dressed children sitting with a man with grease smears on his hands and face, since he came rushing to Mass straight from work. At least 2 of our congregation are living on the streets (out of choice - they know there is both hostel rooms and plenty of guest rooms waiting for them) so they tend not to be well dressed.

I know dressing well for church is a mark of respect to both the church and your fellow parishioners, but being there is more important.
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #22 on: April 26, 2014, 01:06:34 PM »
People are dressing tacky for everything, or haven't you noticed?


Very true.  My pops commented on that 30 years ago and it's only gotten worse with time.  I don't really care to go back to the days of yore when everyone wore formal clothes everywhere, but I do think things have gone a little too far, particularly with many women who seem to feel that dressing like a street walker is appropriate attire for any occasion.  Honestly, though, I think I'd rather see folks in church wearing baggy shorts and t-shirts, or jeans with holes in the knees, than some of the 16 to 20 year old girls I've seen strutting into church with everything wrapped for maximum seductive effect.  That is, I think, tacky (to say the least) because it doesn't indicate a lack of thought about what one's wearing, it indicates studied attention to wearing the wrong attire to church.  I really have no idea why their parents, who are with them, fail to say anything whatsoever (except for those whose mommies are dressed as inappropriately as they).

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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #23 on: April 26, 2014, 07:44:21 PM »
Not sure what your comment means.

Satan was the first "disgruntled" employee.  Martin Luther the second.  Peter is the rock upon which Christ built His church.  Not Henry, Martin or Calvin.  Anything else is hollow.
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Re: Stop dressing so tacky for church
« Reply #24 on: April 26, 2014, 07:57:15 PM »
Sorry, still don't get it, ONC, but then I have a hard time grasping overly broad generalizations.

As an elder in a mainline denomination (not demonination) for which I have little to no respect, I do agree that many of the denominations have strayed from fundamental, orthodox Christianity. They truly are "hollow," in the sense that their core is not Jesus Christ but some invented social/political gospel.  It is my intention to do whatever I can to remove my  little church from this ridiculously overly-bureaucratic and left-leaning denomination.

Fortunately, many local congregations within those denominations still adhere to the truth of the Bible anyway, which defeats the generalization. Not all Presbyterian or Methodist churches are hollow, for example, no matter what socialist path their denominational leadership may be taking.

As for dressing tacky, my experience is that most loving, believing Christian congregations don't care what you're wearing - they just want you to learn about Jesus and will welcome you into fellowship. At the same time, I believe that a member of a congregation should dress respectfully, especially the pastor (as in the Mark Tooley article I posted).
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