Mr. M and I just returned from a weekend retreat with the president of my alma mater. He described what the current crop of college students - GenZ - is all about, and that included the challenges of dealing with their "bulldozer" parents. Snowplowing, more appropriately known as bulldozing, is a large reason why millennials, and now the GenZ cohort, are having trouble in life and at work.
A third of millennials fail to even make it through their three-month probation periods. It appears when left to their own devices as young adults a great many of them fail to make the cut. ...So it’s not just parents anymore. There’s an entire fleet of bulldozers out there, prepping the ground for youngsters before they’re allowed to take their first step into the real world; a team of enablers willing to scorch the earth if necessary to pave the way.
No matter how well-intentioned, removing all obstacles in order to provide short term protection results in psychologically fragile children who don’t know how to survive as they’ve never been required to develop coping mechanisms, never been left to their own devices to work through a problem. ...
I have a plaque, carved in stone that has stayed at the bottom of the stairs for many years. The kids, as they went to and from their bedrooms, saw it every day. It says:
Prepare the Child for the Path, not the Path for the Child.Our family has lived this their whole life. My kids are amazed at how incompetent most of their peers are in basic life skills and decision making.