It goes both ways. Men AND women should consider the needs of the other when on a single's site. That is where Bob and I found each other. It was a meeting of the minds.
Indeed, and whenever possible, that's how it should be.
I've been trying to find someone who's close to my level. Interests don't really matter too much to me, since I have my own and I really don't feel a need to force a potential partner into doing everything together. The travel-the-world types tend to get me a little uncomfortable since it sends the signal that they're really not ready to settle into things, but other than that, it's pretty much you do you, and I'll do me.
The problem I've run into is that, much like what I've run into trying to expand my social life in the "real world," there are indeed very few women around here, and even fewer that fit what I'm looking for. When I try to expand my radius, I sometimes find a few more, but then I run into the problem of them living in cities—I might be willing to date someone 50 miles away and do most of the traveling, but they won't consider anyone outside 10 miles and I simply don't have that luxury.
I've tried looking for good matches, but every time I send a message (usually along the lines of "we seem to have a lot in common; it'd be nice to get to know you a little better"), even if the person seems like a near perfect match, she ignores me. With so few people to consider, the options are quickly exhausted and after only a few weeks I'm burnt out, much like the article says—and being where I'm at, I don't seem to get noticed and I rarely get any messages from anyone. I don't want to feel like I'm settling.
So, short of basically uprooting my whole life and starting over somewhere else, I don't have much hope.
